Going to a wedding. to kilt or not to kilt that is the question?

[McClef]

I've no idea where you live, but if it were I, and the wedding was taking place somewhere other than Scotland, I'd not wear Highland attire. The exception would be a "themed" wedding (something that seems to be popular in the USA) in which case I'd try to "blend in" with the theme (however, I draw the line at Star Trek, Pirate, and Harry Potter themed weddings).

But do remember that kilts HAVE appeared in two of these!

[PEEDYC]

I am expected to wear my kilt on "special" occasions be it a christening, wedding or even a funeral so I would not ask. If you are not normally kilted then it may be better to ask than cause a stir. I hope kilted would be the answer. Most people who invite me comment that I appear to be one of the few who made a real effort for the occasion.

[flyingshamrock]

If I am invited to a wedding the people inviting me would know me for a kilt wearer so unless there was a specific request not to I would be kilted.

If I didn't I would get lots of questions as to why I wasn't kilted!

I agree, I've been to a plethora of weddings kilted and a majority of the people in attendance know that i'll be kilted. I've never had anyone say anything negative. I don't think you have to ask permission to be yourself.

[tpa]

I'm off to a wedding in Sussex this weekend and as the bride's family are from Scotland, I'll be very surprised if I am the only kilted guest.

I doubt I would be invited to a wedding where I was not known well enough for them to expect me in anything else. One of the main benefits of a kilt is that it can be adapted for any occasion and I no longer have anything else remotely suitable that fits.

[OC Richard]

The same with me Trefor, and as I don't own a formal suit, so a kilt and Argyll with shirt and tie is my formal attire for a wedding.

Same with me as well. I've not owned a suit in many years, and Highland Dress serves for any dressy occasion.

Every wedding I've attended, in the last ten years or so, has had a number of kilted men present, as far as I can recall. So I'm not alone in this, around here.

[Steve Barclay]

We have a wedding coming up next month and with this thread in mind, I got my wifey to ask the bride (she knows her a bit better than I do as they used to be housemates) on my behalf, the response- "I'd love Steve to wear his kilt!"

[CDNSushi]

I am also in the Zardoz camp on this one. Being a guest is not the same as being somehow involved in the wedding party. In the case of the latter, it would probably be best to inquire of the wedding party if they'd have any issues with it.

If you are simply a guest -- I'd just go ahead and kilt up, (unless there were mitigating circumstances known beforehand that would make that difficult/awkward/undesirable). Can you imagine if every single wedding guest had to ask if what they planned on wearing were appropriate? We're not in junior high school anymore, and the burden is on us to make intelligent decisions based on information and circumstances.

Most wedding invitations (at least the ones I've been invited to) do give some clues as to the formality of the event, if not outright specifying in writing. Go with that as your guideline, whether or not it includes a kilt. If you are really worried about your choice, just throw a complete, alternative change of clothes in the car. Attend the service kilted, and gauge peoples' responses. If it looks like it would be a problem the rest of the day, then change outfits before the reception.