Non-kilted wedding options?

[lethearen]

So my fiancée is adamantly against my wearing the kilt to our wedding. I think she should wear her qipao and I my kilt, but she doesn't think that appropriate Regardless, I'd still like to wear something that throws back to my ancestry. What would my options be?

In particular, I wanted y'all's opinion on wearing a fly plaid with a tux. Is that doable, faux pas, or just plain NO?

Other things I've considered are either a tartan waistcoat or cumberbund.

Anything else I might be able to get away with?

[billmcc]

I think a fly plaid would look very odd, but a tartan waistcoat would look nice.

[Zardoz]

I attended a wedding where the groom was kilted and the bride wore a cheongsam or qipao if you will. A couple of us guests were kilted too, (sorry no photos) and I thought it looked pretty cool.

That being said... One thing for sure, weddings are the bride's deal, although generally managed by the mother or other female relation. Your job is to show up on time and remember your lines!
You certanly should have some input, so keep pushing for the kilt, but have a backup. I think most here will agree that a plaid on a tux is not appropriate, but a tie, waistcoat or cumberbund in your tartan would be fine.

[McMurdo]

A Fly Plaid is a NO without the kilt. I think perhaps a tartan waistcoat would work well in this situation, but a fly plaid would just looks strange without the kilt.

[The Barry]

McMurdo is spot on, the fly plaid without the kilt is a no-go.

I like the idea of the tartan waistcoat. Does your bride-to-be not know how wonderful the kilt is? How manly? How formal?

[Macman]

I'd wear a tartan tie and cummerbund in my clan tartan. I agree with the others about the fly plaid.

[svc40bt]

Black tie, tartan waistcoat, either sqare or on the bias, no plaid. If you convince her on the kilt, then black waistcoat or tartan on the bias.

Unless it is an evening wedding, then you open a whole new barrel, not can, of worms.:

[Colonel MacNeal]

Wear some really loud trews - that'll show her.

[wvpiper]

You'd better ask her first if she'll want you wearing any tartan.
Sounds like she won't.
I think you're itching for a fight if you even broach the subject.

[Dan R Porter]

You should print out many many photos and information on kilts and kilted weddings, I find them more appropriate then a tux. Then if that fails do what I do to my soon-to-be wife, use guilt!

"Honey I know this is your special day, but I would really like a small part in making it even more special for the both of us,(this is where you turn over photos/literature on kilted weddings)..." so-on so-on.