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01-12-2010, 08:07 PM
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My best friend is about to loose her father due to cancer. So when i say i am planning to go to a funeral soon, its not light hearted. As most of my dress clothes have given way to kilt wearing, I have an outfit in mind for the day but i wanted to make sure its appropriate
Please excuse the grin, its was a good day when i snapped the shot
As we will be outside i most likely will add a Balmoral
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01-12-2010, 08:12 PM
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Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.
So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.
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Outfit looks fine to me, as well.
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From someone who has worn a kilt to a few funerals, I'd say wear a white shirt and wool tie in a solid colour that picks up one of the colours of the kilt. For example something like this:
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01-12-2010, 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Noel Christian Riddell 'Wear your best and look respectful'
Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.
So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.  | Add a tie it is just showing your respect for the family.
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Originally Posted by Noel Christian Riddell 'Wear your best and look respectful'
Think I heard someone say that once... I think your choice of attire is perfectly suited to the occasion. Though I'd add a black neck tie to the ensemble.
So sorry to hear about your friend's dad. I live in Cancerville, USA. Evil, evil disease.  | I'd second this sentiment, and only add that a black armband is usually a definitive touch regarding appropriate sentiments.
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01-13-2010, 01:55 AM
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not wishing to spoil the party so to speak, but consider this, a funeral is not about you, it's a show of respect for the dearly departed and the family and friends they left behind.
In Scotland it's not the norm to wear the kilt to a funeral, unless the deceased themselves either wore a kilt, loved the tartan or was highly patriotic.
I would personally consider every aspect, did your friends father admire your wearing of the kilt, if so wear it for that reason, if on the other hand he never saw you wearing the kilt, then perhaps on this one occassion wear clothing that will fit in with the rest of the mourners.
or put simply, do you really want to stand out amongst the crowd and steal the centre of attention at this sad occassion.
Perhaps ask the approval of your friend ?
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01-13-2010, 01:58 AM
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Originally Posted by McMurdo From someone who has worn a kilt to a few funerals, I'd say wear a white shirt and wool tie in a solid colour that picks up one of the colours of the kilt. For example something like this: | I agree with Glen. I would go with a white shirt and tie that picks up one of the kilt's colors.
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01-13-2010, 02:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Redshank not wishing to spoil the party so to speak, but consider this, a funeral is not about you, it's a show of respect for the dearly departed and the family and friends they left behind.
In Scotland it's not the norm to wear the kilt to a funeral, unless the deceased themselves either wore a kilt, loved the tartan or was highly patriotic.
I would personally consider every aspect, did your friends father admire your wearing of the kilt, if so wear it for that reason, if on the other hand he never saw you wearing the kilt, then perhaps on this one occassion wear clothing that will fit in with the rest of the mourners.
or put simply, do you really want to stand out amongst the crowd and steal the centre of attention at this sad occassion.
Perhaps ask the approval of your friend ?
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Wise words there Chris. However, once you have considered the above advice and then decide that the kilt is appropriate, then something along the lines of Glen's attire in his picture here would be just right. If I might respectfully say that a black shirt is not as effective as a white shirt and black(not a bow) tie. For what it is worth your sporran is really not appropriate for the occasion--- too formal. Once again, something like the one Glen is wearing, maybe with black leather tassels if you like them, would suit the sad occasion rather better.
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01-13-2010, 02:38 AM
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Yes, at a funeral respect for the deceased is paramount. White shirt and black tie are the thing.
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