[michael steinrok]

So I get an invite to my cousins' grandmothers' 100th Birthday party.Good news.
On the invite a post it note saying this is a no kilt party. "thanks for your understanding." Definately Bad news
This kind of Tees me off as I am getting closer to being kilted all the time.

I could call and raise a stink but I won't, primarily, because I will be in Germany! HahAHHahaHhahahahAHhaaaaaaaaa! It is their deal. But in the future I will ask if kilts are allowed if not I will explain why I am not going. I dress better than most of them any way. Most of the anti kilt crap come from the ignorant jerks on that side of the family. All the more reason not to go. All the bad blood seems to come from some poor choices my cousins made when they married , oops

The nice thing is their grandmother is a sweet little old lady. They call her Nana. Happy Birthday to her!

[Blu (Ontario)]

Originally Posted by michael steinrok

So I get an invite to my cousins' grandmothers' 100th Birthday party.Good news.... This kind of Tees me off as I am getting closer to being kilted all the time.... the nice thing is their grandmother is a sweet little old lady. They call her Nana. Happy Birthday to her!

I have a suggestion for a polite reply that I might be inclined to send along if I were in similar circumstances.

Thank you for the invitation to _______ 100th birthday celebration.

Regrettably, I will be unable to attend as I will be out of the country.
I should say I am rather saddened that you have chosen to make my attire an issue, particularly on such a happy occasion. Be assured that I always make every effort to dress appropriately for all occasions. Also, please understand that, like you, I need neither justify nor explain my choice of clothing to anyone. I Thank you for your suggestion anyway.

I would appreciate your expressing my very best wishes to _______ on her 100th birthday.

Best regards to you and yours,

Michael

Something along these lines might kill 2 birds with one stone.

However you choose to handle this.... Good luck !

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[Big Dave]

Blu, you are such a gentlemen. I don't think I could be so civil (That's why my wife tries to handle things before I can ). It's sad that people (mostly family) are unable to be openminded. That's too bad, it's their loss, not yours. Kilt with pride.

[Tattoo Bradley]

That's very sad. I sure hope my family never does something like this to me.

[raindog]

Hi Michael,
That's really sad and rather strange. I must have a really easygoing family compared to a lot of the people on here, as all I hear is of trouble with families accepting the kilt.....I haven't got a kilt yet, but everyone I talk to, friends, family, want me to wear it.
What is so bad about wearing a kilt?? These people must be filled with mental turmoils and anxieties if they're getting flustered over a kilt! :confused:
I think you're good in your decision to go, but I'd be a bit peed off at these odd people.
Again I say... :confused: :confused: :confused:


Jeff.

[NewKilt]

I really like Blu's suggested reply note. It is unfortunate when wearing a kilt is an issue with some family members. The grandmother, celebrating her 100th might have been delighted to see a man wearing a kilt.

I'm very fortunate that my wearing a kilt has not been an issue on my side of the family or my wife's side.

Darrell

[Roan Carter]

My family has had few troubles with the kilt ...

My grandmother passed away with the coming of the cold weather this year, and when I attended her funeral I went in some formal pants, shirt, and tie, etc. Her side of the family was more English, and the only resistance I ever received in kilt-wearing was from her son, my dad. I figured it was no time to even think about it, even though I pretty much wear kilts daily now. I got dress pants and things just for that ocassion.

I think at any other funeral, I would have gone in a kilt, with a jacket and tie. But I knew how my dad felt and didn't mind wearing pants for a day.

As for a birthday party -- I don't understand the difficulty with a kilt. I'm sorry they've chosen to discriminate that way. But the glory of the post modern world is that if someone in your family bugs you, you don't necessarily have to deal with it. ;)

[Norbydog]

What I would do:

I would send a return note, which read "I am sorry that I cannot attend the 'No Norbydog Party' " (not my real name).

I would also come visit my cousin's grandmother the day before the party, kilted, with the most lavish and thoughtful gift I could find. And hope she spent the whole party talking about it.

P.S. A very similar event happened to me at my in-law's extended family home during Christmas two years ago. Now my wife, her parnets, and sister refuse to visit for the holidays.

[switchblade5984]

i just read that note to my dad!

he says "its Perfect and he could not think of a better response!

thanks!"

[Joe Gondek]

All I can say about it is;
You can pick your friends but you can't pick your relatives.