No kilt at the wedding, or some people still don't get it

**arrogcow** · 31st March 07, 02:30 PM

So this week I called one of my best friends from college. He had been the best man at my wedding, but we don't keep in touch as much as we should. However it was his birthday, and amazingly I got a hold of him.

Turns out he is getting married in Oct in Stony Point, NY and I get to be a groom dude. Now we chat for a while and another groom dude aparently lives right next door to Amerikilts. My friend also has a UK a couple of AK's and a tank in his family tartan. I also know that at least one of the other guys I expect to be in the wedding has a kilt (and another that wouldn't supprise me if he did). So I finally ask him what to wear for the wedding (thinking that this may be my excuse for that Brian Baru jacket I want, and possibly a new tartan - if the bride wants everyone to match for some reason).

Morning coats. Arrrghh. I have to drive 700 miles and then wear pants. I'm gonna beat that boy when I see him.

Adam

**cessna152towser** · 31st March 07, 02:44 PM

Each to their own and its what the bride and groom want the principal guests to wear on the day that counts, unfortunatley. I got married in trousers but that was before my new wife introduced me to the comfort of kilts.

**Fearnest** · 31st March 07, 02:45 PM

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

**Caradoc** · 31st March 07, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by arrogcow

Morning coats. Arrrghh. I have to drive 700 miles and then wear pants. I'm gonna beat that boy when I see him.

It's not your wedding. It's theirs.

You have the choice of doing it their way, or not going. It's up to them to decide what the wedding party is wearing.

Now, that said... it does open up some interesting possibilities for the toasts later at the reception.

**Kilted KT** · 31st March 07, 04:53 PM

if it helps...I've had that same thing happen to me many times. Eventually everyone will understand that a kilt really isn't just a costume, but is extremely classy formal wear as well as something that can be worn casually, depending on the accessories.

good luck with those pants. Try not to fall over putting them on!

**GMan** · 31st March 07, 09:18 PM

Sometimes we endure for our friends. It is the noble Kilted thing to do.

**turpin** · 31st March 07, 09:43 PM

Definitely wear it for the rehearsal dinner and bachelor party.

**jordanjm** · 31st March 07, 10:36 PM

Sometimes the Groom does not have control. When I got married I asked her what she wanted me to wear, a Tuxedo, or a Kilt. (I would have had my kilt sooo much sooner if she had let me then.) She chose a tux. After all the day is really HER day, not THEIR day. So make her happy, and then you can still be his friend.

**David Dalglish** · 1st April 07, 12:10 AM

It my be just me, but I would not go to any function that told me not to wear my kilt. It is my decission to wear kilts, & all my family & friends know this & accept it. If anyone wants to ask me to any function, without my kilt, I would politely decline there invitation, as we are a double act.

**ckelly327** · 1st April 07, 05:11 AM

When my step daughter got married many years ago she had the traditional wedding setup.. Then half way through the reception her new father in law put on his kilt and everyone enjoyed it. (I wasn't kilted at the time but will do the same thing next time there is a chance.) A bride never wants to be shown up but when the party really starts, the walls come down.