Response to The Question & More.

[Larry124]

“Are you unsure of my gender?”
Delivered tong-in-cheek, coyly, or as a mock challenge.
The larger point is that wearing the kilt can/does/must prompt split-second judgment and wit.
"Oh, but I haven't that skill." Yes you do. Yes I do. We all do.
A simple entertainers trick. Not rocket science.
Who is your audience? How to get them on your side with the right comment?
Brings a smile, or doesn’t. Practice.
The smiles definitely outweigh any awkward bits.

[Bugbear]

As far as I can tell, I have no judgment and wit.

[WillieMacG]

Usually when I'm confronted by a dunderhead, my response just kinda tumbles out before I can do much about it.

[Chirs]

I agree that, if you can get them laughing with you and not have everyone laughing at them, you'll all come out the better. But it doesn't always work.

We were in a restaurant (complete with other patrons) and a lady (probably in her early forties) asked the question to which I made a funny remark. She laughed, as did others, then she asked again. Another funny remark, more laughter, and she asked again! After I gently suggested she not ask that question she said "So, you're not going to tell me." (all of this while sitting across from a man I assumed to be her husband). I smiled and said "No."

For some people no amount of subtlety and wit will ever be sufficient.

[Mike in Dayton]

I agree that, if you can get them laughing with you and not have everyone laughing at them, you'll all come out the better. But it doesn't always work.

We were in a restaurant (complete with other patrons) and a lady (probably in her early forties) asked the question to which I made a funny remark. She laughed, as did others, then she asked again. Another funny remark, more laughter, and she asked again! After I gently suggested she not ask that question she said "So, you're not going to tell me." (all of this while sitting across from a man I assumed to be her husband). I smiled and said "No."

For some people no amount of subtlety and wit will ever be sufficient.

With that exchange it would be time for the "Good girls don't ask, bad girls find out for themselves" comment. Something tells me she would have fit into the bad girl category.

Mike

[R.S.L. Kiltwearer]

if it's from a guy i just give him a quizzical look and walk away, especially if i am with my wife.
it ifs from a woman, i tell them they have to ask my wife if they can check.
and before anyone ask's you would be surprised how many do......
witch is another can of worms.

then again given the nature of some of the threads on this form maybe you wouldn't be surprised

[R.S.L. Kiltwearer]

"Good girls don't ask, bad girls find out for themselves"

Mike

thats going into the response book

[Tobus]

For some people no amount of subtlety and wit will ever be sufficient.

That's why I don't really try to beat around the proverbial bush when they're genuinely asking "the question". I assume they're asking because they want to know, not because they're looking for a witty punch line. And since I'm not terribly secretive (or ashamed) of anything, I tell them. Heck, half the time my wife beats me to the punch. I suspect she sort of enjoys it.

There might come a day when the situation dictates being a little more private about how to answer "the question". But I find that in those situations, most people are polite enough not to ask.

[Mathuna]

My wife usually is the first to chime in with an answer of "Let's just say I like the ease of access".

[Chirs]

Was at the movies with the kids tonight, wearing my kilt, and heard a young man say "Nice skirt!" His cronies thought it was funny. Before I could think I turned and said "Thank-you. As a man, I call it a kilt. But I do understand why you would call it a skirt." His face turned red. Some of his friends laughed, some looked confused...