First of all, I want to say hello to everyone! I am a new user and have worn the kilt for about 6 months now, but have been interested in them ever since I was in a high school production of "Brigadoon." I've read all the posts and feel at home already! It seems to me that all of you have the support of your spouse and family. That's great! Unfortunately, my lovely wife HATES me in the kilt! :cry: The kilt is fine, but not with me in it. Any advice on how I might win her over?

Get over to kiltmen.com. Lots of great articles over there

Thanks, Calico Jack! I've scoured that site and read everything that was available there. Tried out some of the suggestions at the kiltmen, but still the wife won't budge.

Just a matter of time I guess. The first thing is what specifically she doesn't like about it. There isn't much you can do til you know that. Is she worried friends might be leary about it? Is she concerned about attention from other females? Does she think it's just too weird where you live? Find out the specifics and then you have a direct point to deal with.
When I started my wife thought, and still thinks, it was kinda off the wall. She gives me looks of amused tollerance mostly but I noticed when we go places she stays very close, letting other women know I'm taken :lol: Her position is really that as long as I look somewhat tidy and reasonably clean it's my choice to wear kilts or not.

My wife wants me to wear one all the time .... says she enjoys the looks I get from other women. Maybe your wife wants you NOT to wear one for the same reason.

Celt, I envy you!

Bubba, my wife and I have been married about 9 yrs (happily!) :D so she doen't care that the other ladies may look, because she knows who I am going home with! Her main beef is that I look like a "schoolgirl in a skirt", and that she is concerned what other people are going to think. (Being me, I told her I could give a rats a** about what other people think!)I plan on taking her to the highland games this summer here in Chicago to see what other men have to say and think about the kilt. Maybe it's just going to take some time I guess. :cry: I'll keep working at it - in my kilt, of couse! Thanks for the support!

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Originally Posted by The Kilted Chef

Her main beef is that I look like a "schoolgirl in a skirt", and that she is concerned what other people are going to think.

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Point out to your wife that what you are wearing is a real kilt, not a schoolgirl's skirt. Schoolgirls do not wear real kilts, so how can you look like a schoolgirl?

Rob

Must be the accessories! Hmmm. A sgian Duhb in the sock, a proper sporran maybe and a very wide kilt belt with a huge buckle. That should kill off the schoolgirl thing :lol:

And don't wear your hair in pigtails anymore..that should help some.

We're here for you, Kilted Chef!
A "Kilted Support Network"! :lol:
Your lass will come around in time.
Good luck to you laddy!
- Dakotan

Or, I suppose, you could start insisting that she wear a dress or skirt at all times, so she doesn't look like a schoolboy in pants......that should give her pause.

If all else fails, strap a claymore across your back. That'll deter any comments :D

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Originally Posted by Celt

Or, I suppose, you could start insisting that she wear a dress or skirt at all times, so she doesn't look like a schoolboy in pants......that should give her pause.

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LOL! I'll have to try that one!

Larry

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Originally Posted by bubba

If all else fails, strap a claymore across your back. That'll deter any comments :D

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Bubba-

I happen to have one that I'm currently using as a cheese knife...

I have tears in my eyes from laughing so much! :lol: Thanks for all the support and comments!!

Bubba-
I do wear many of the kilt accoutrements such as sporrans, (My wife is constantly harping about all of the sporrans (5) that I've purchased) hose, the kilt belt that I wear sometimes isn't the best, (I'm currently looking for another... any suggestions anyone?) combat boots, hiking boots, doc martins, well you get the point. I find it hard to belive that I look like a "SCHOOLGIRL" with hairy legs and paratrooper boots! :o Unless you count the punk look! LOL! No offence to the punkers :oops: Although I certainly wouldn't be mistaken as Arnold (Conan) The Barbarian, I hardly qualify as feminine looking...

Chef Larry

Hello Kilted Chef,
Why don't you post a photo. I guarantee that the membership here would be only too pleased to offer their completely objective appraisal of your attire. 8) You can then share the combined perspicacity of the membership here with your lovely wife. :mrgreen: (Just so she won't feel left out, we can critique her photo as well. :wink:)

Well, I got my kilt belt from www.scottishkilts.net along with a buckle. The belt is 2 1/4 inces wide and the buckle is big enough to anchor a bass boat. :lol: Add my homemade fur sporran with 3 gold tassels and a BDU jacket, my combat boots and beret with the Clan badge on it and there ain't no misidentification possible :D

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Hello Kilted Chef,
Why don't you post a photo. I guarantee that the membership here would be only too pleased to offer their completely objective appraisal of your attire. 8) You can then share the combined perspicacity of the membership here with your lovely wife. :mrgreen: (Just so she won't feel left out, we can critique her photo as well. :wink:)

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Well Blu, I intend to post LOTS of pictures as soon as my digital camera is repaired, but that requires $$ that could be spent on another kilt or accessory! Damn thing went on the fritz at the best possible moments! I am beginning to think that machines have minds of their own!

Post a pic of the wife, too. We need to get the complete perspective on your situation in order to offer proper guidance.

Hmmmm, I dunno, is this the happy couple in question?

http://mindstation.com/Photos/wedding_couple.jpg

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Whoa. I'd call that an assault kilt. Cool boots, too.

Thought I would resurrect this post. I've had some recent, fresh objections from my wife.

This past week we've had visitors from the US and most of the week I've been kilted.
During meetings and chats I've tried very hard to sit "decently", but my wife says my underpants have been exposed quite a bit (at least I was wearing some).

She says that men just don't know how to sit in a kilt :(

I always sit by pushing the kilt down between my legs or sit with my legs together.

Has anyone else faced these difficulties?

Don't worry Graham, my wife's said the same thing. I think us men were born to be obscene and not heard.
Cheers Rhino

:D :D :D

I hate to say it, but the butt sweep is the best. You can sit with your legs spread (Sporran between them) or any other way.
Cheers,
Allen

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Originally Posted by allenlynott

I hate to say it, but the butt sweep is the best. You can sit with your legs spread (Sporran between them) or any other way.
Cheers,
Allen

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Right on. This is the only way to go. I now do this automatically ... never get a negative comment about exposure.

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Originally Posted by Graham

Thought I would resurrect this post. I've had some recent, fresh objections from my wife.

This past week we've had visitors from the US and most of the week I've been kilted.
During meetings and chats I've tried very hard to sit "decently", but my wife says my underpants have been exposed quite a bit (at least I was wearing some).

She says that men just don't know how to sit in a kilt :(

I always sit by pushing the kilt down between my legs or sit with my legs together.

Has anyone else faced these difficulties?

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I've heard stuff like, "men just don't know how to sit in a kilt," quite a bit lately. I hear this as 'men don't know how to sit in a kilt the way women sit in skirts.'
We're built differently, so we sit differently.
A rare flash from a guy in a kilt is not criminal. If it was criminal to flash, a good part of the female population would be in prison.

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Originally Posted by bear@bearkilts.com

If it was criminal to flash, a good part of the female population would be in prison.

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Bur bear, you know women are held to a different standard than men. :twisted:

[quote=bubba]

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Originally Posted by "bear@bearkilts.com If it was criminal to flash, a good part of the female population would be in prison.[/quote

But bear, you know women are held to a different standard than men. :twisted:

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Not if the woman likes the flash, or lifts your kilt herself, or it's the first Saturday night of the month in Vancouver.

Timing is everything.

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Originally Posted by allenlynott

I hate to say it, but the butt sweep is the best. You can sit with your legs spread (Sporran between them) or any other way.
Cheers,
Allen

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By this you mean sweeping the hand or two hands behind as you sit to keep the pleats from being crumpled? If so, I understand and do that automatically.

In meetings here we commonly all sit in a circle on chairs. Therein lies the problem, but I think my wife is oversensitive, if I wore shorts I would be showing a lot more leg.
Kneeing on the floor is a safe position, but not always comfy for long periods. (Even us Christians are not always good on our knees :) )

"The occasional flash" Bear? well no, it's not acceptable for me if it can be avoided, but accidents happen. I don't want to bring the kilt into disrepute more than I can help. There are already too many jokes about what's under it.

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Originally Posted by Graham

"The occasional flash" Bear? well no, it's not acceptable for me if it can be avoided, but accidents happen. I don't want to bring the kilt into disrepute more than I can help. There are already too many jokes about what's under it.

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What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
I call it hen teasing.

Bear I'm tempted to say that you must have a few very interesting women in Vancouver, the ones I know here tend to be quite conservative in dress, long skirts to the ankle type lasses, some younger ones like to expose their bellys a lot but we are talking about "objections from loved ones" not the loose women of the city.

So "goose and gander" doesn't quite apply here, I take your meaning tho :wink:

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Bear I'm tempted to say that you must have a few very interesting women in Vancouver, the ones I know here tend to be quite conservative in dress, long skirts to the ankle type lasses, some younger ones like to expose their bellys a lot but we are talking about "objections from loved ones" not the loose women of the city.

So "goose and gander" doesn't quite apply here, I take your meaning tho :wink:

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There is no better place to be kilted than Vancouver.
It is renowned for the beauty of it's women and they all seem to love a man in a kilt.

I have no objections from loved ones. My wife loves me in a kilt. Of course, she is Scottish/Irish/Welsh. That might be part of it.

Well Bear, if I were looking for a wife i would be heading to Vancouver now :D (in a kilt of course).

I am patient with my wife, it cannot be an easy thing to accept such a sudden change in a husband as to have him wanting to wear a kilt all the day.

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Originally Posted by Graham

I am patient with my wife, it cannot be an easy thing to accept such a sudden change in a husband as to have him wanting to wear a kilt all the day.

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Well Graham, I think you've hit it right on the head! I certainly don't expect my wife to switch on the dime, more along the lines of acceptance instead of badgering me to burn my kilts :cry: and just wear trousers. I realize I'll need to be patient with her as well, and patience is not my strong point... However, some of my family members have been asking if I were going to wear the kilt over Easter! I'll have my wife take the "A questioniere for the lassies" quiz, although I can predict what her answers will be.

Larry

I hadn't intended to wear a kilt to the inlaws for Easter dinner. The wife insisted.
Eat your hearts out, all.
BWWWWAHAHAHAHAHA!

K-Chef,

Maybe you could get your wife to watch Wallace and Gromit in "The Wrong Trousers." Then she'd know how evil trousers really are (and penguins!) :D

Rufus

That has got to be tuff. My wife goes along with just about any new thing I want to get into. I think she just figures it another one of my phases and that I will go through it and maybe the next one will not be so weird. But with the kilt thing she has been kinda cool about it, mostly cause she kinda got the hots for this fellow on a show she watches on Tech T.V. who wears a green Utlikilt about once a week and she really diggs that. So when I exspressed an interest in wearing a kilt, she was all for it.
She is still a little hesitant about my interest in some facial pearcings, but I'm wearing her down. Just remember give her a little time and a lotta love and perhaps she will mellow.

thanx...Ded N. Buried

Ummm...you want piercings, or you want HER to get them...? If it's the latter, I can kinda understand her reluctance......especially if you're telling her, "We can save a lot of money if I do them for you right here at home, honey".

Funny there Celt...
My face not her's. her beautiful face needs no decoration at all. However about three dumbells in the left eyebrow and a small spike below my bottom lip, professionally done of course, would just look cool. They would freak at work, but aw well they'll get over it, they always do.

thanx...Ded N. Buried