jilted wife

[kiltie as charged]

Well, I had a talk with my wife about her honest opinion about me being kilted. She said that she feels like she is walking with a woman instead of a man.

I told her that I feel more of a man when kilted. I look around at all of the women that I see and know and they are all wearing pants! This makes me feel like I am dressed like a woman

Heck when I'm kilted I tend to want to look good,I dress better and I feel better.

And now she says that she is a little jealous when other women come up to me and smile and call me cute

Of course I find it to be quite amusing! I love my wife very much , but my comfort and masculinity are important to me as well.

And after what happened to me I feel that I have every right to wear what I want when I want. Publicly she says how great I look, but privatly
she tells me she rather see me in pants

The thing is the more I wear my kilt the less I want to wear those evil things!

I need help here, I need ways to help convince her that my kilt wearing does not make me a woman Nor should she feel that way.

[Kilted_John]

Hmmm, tough pickle to be in... My sister feels the same way. Guess it doesn't help that I have kinda-longish hair. But, she'll just have to deal with it, since I'm not changing just because she's insecure and can't handle the fact that I like being kilted and longhaired at the same time. *shrug* Oh well.

With your wife, give it some time, she'll get over it and realize that you're not being a x-dr*$$*r...
-J

[Miah]

Have you went to a celtic fest. or a highland games event or anything like that? My wife never had much of a problem with me wearing a kilt. Then again Her and I both are used to people doing double takes of me from all my tattoos and whatnot.
After we went to a celtic fest in FL. she was definitly more comfortable with the kilt idea.

[Ugly Bear]

Your wife feels like she's with a woman, AND she objects to your getting hit on BY other women??

I think her second worry is more honest than the first. She's comparing you to a woman because she's trying to manipulate you. It's because she's afraid of those other women.

Play into it. Tell her you're the biggest lez on the block. If she keeps whining, tell her to go put on a house dress. Don't wanna feel like you're with a man, right? Right.

[Declan Rowan]

I had a girlfriend who was like that at one point. She was very self-concious, especially when I got my ear rings and wore the kilt more and more. Thing that I found worked was to talk to her friends, ask them what they thought of me in a kilt, and then tell her this. Having 6 people tell her how much they wished their man wore a kilt and how lucky she was changed her mind. And the more people came up to me with compliments, the more she enjoyed it. Just stay the course, and expose her to other guys in kilts and see the attention they get.

Do I sense a Kilted Roadtrip?

[Jimmy Carbomb]

Dude... there are issues here!

There's no way that a wife should feel like her man is anything but her man, no matter what he's wearing. Perhaps some Barry White and a magnum of Merlot will help.

Try dressing a little more "rugged" in the things. Doc Martens, some chained accessories, a black shirt and a scally cap might help. Take a look at what's "around" the kilt first before we can blame it for the comments. I can GUARANTEE that I NEVER get mistaken for some Perrier-sipping, Provincetown patsy!!!

[Alan H]

My answer to that is rather than worrying too awfully much about whether you LOOK like a man or a woman, just BE a man.

What does that mean? Well, be yourself. Be aware and conscious of other people's feelings and opinions, but don't let them run your life for you. I think that one of the things any man can do along those lines is listen to their wifes' (or gf's) concerns, put some effort into allaying them and maybe compromising a little bit on when we wear a kilt and when we don't... but if we want to wear a kilt, WEAR it. Don't ask permission, just do it. Wearing a kilt does not ruin her life, nor does it make any of us into something we are not. It's JUST a piece of clothing.

In time, the simple positive assertiveness and confidence we display by acting like this will leave her no room for doubt, as if there was any in the first place..

[kiltie as charged]

Thanks for the advice. I think that I dress rugged, I own a Harley, I drive a f150 pickup, I hunt and fish. I mean how rugged can I get?

We are going to a celtic fest this May. But as a re-enactment group, so I will be kilted most of the time. She has seen other men kilted also. But mostly re-enactors.

I think that she may be jealous,so she will have to just get over it! And look past the way I dress and see me for the man that she married all those years ago. After what I went through I simply don't care

[Thistle Stop]

Honestly, what is WRONG with all these women? In my opinion, there is nothing more masculine and sexy than a man in a kilt. (Some more than others, of course!) I admit I have a preference for traditional, worsted wool tartan kilts, because I think they look the best and the cultural associations mean a lot to me. But there are plenty of guys who look darn cute in an 'urban' kilt, too!

I can't identify with getting upset because some other woman admires my man in his kilt, either. I enjoy that! I'm glad they think he's hot! He is! Why deny it? Of course, if the guy flirts BACK in anything other than a jokey way, it could be a good reason to be resentful -- so don't do that!

I agree that exposing kilt-resistant wives/girlfriends/partners to venues where they will see a lot of other guys in kilts is helpful.

On behalf of my gender, I apologise for the short-sightedness, uptightness, or whatever it is in these women who give you kilted men a hard time!

[Tim Walker]

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