Online dating for kilties?

**Hachiman** · 14th November 13, 04:43 PM

Hi folks!

As a result of a discussion I was having with a kiltie (not on this forum), something interesting has come to my attention. The discussion touched upon online dating, and while there are numerous websites that cater to 'niche' populations, there are no online dating sites that cater specifically to kilt aficionados. With numerous observations on this forum and other sites regarding the appeal of the kilt to some, the question was put to me: how best for those who wear the kilt to meet those who find kilt-wearers appealing? So I've begun steps to create such a dating site, but I'd like the input of the Rabble, hence this poll.

Your input is valuable and I would appreciate your participation.

**sydnie7** · 14th November 13, 04:54 PM

Nothing new under the sun! I recall a thread on this topic some time ago. IIRC the consensus was that it would be too restrictive. Better to use a large site and just make it clear upfront that you wear the kilt.

**Grizzly** · 14th November 13, 04:57 PM

I am not single, however if I were then I would see no harm in perusing a site where any prospective partners were already accepting of the kilt.

There are many of us who's significant others are not totally accepting of the way that we choose to attire ourselve, ranging from intolerance to just about accepting.

At least it would give us a head start. I have to say that it would not be exclusive and that I would pursue other avenues should I feel so inclined.

**Chas** · 14th November 13, 05:55 PM

And what are the girls going to be wearing?

**Hachiman** · 14th November 13, 06:23 PM

Originally Posted by Chas

And what are the girls going to be wearing?

I would imagine the girls would be wearing whatever they like. ;)

Seriously though, the point of my inquiry is to find out how this small segment of the kilt-wearing population would respond should such a service be available. And that includes the spouses, significant others, girlfriends, and boyfriends that are members of this forum. Since they could be considered "kilt admirers" (or at least "kilt positive"), I want to know their opinion too. After all, a dating website would be catering not only to those individuals who wear a kilt, but to those individuals who would like to have a relationship with someone who wears a kilt.

**Riverkilt** · 14th November 13, 06:32 PM

I love on line dating....what a great way to meet ladies with similar interests. Have been dating personals ads since back when we wrote letters to blind mailboxes, then left voicemail messages...have met some incredible ladies that way and had some wonderful relationships and friendships.

On some on line dating deals you can search for specific words in the lady's profile....a few years back I searched for "kilt" and found over 100 ladies who mentioned their love of kilts in their profile....on a regular dating site.

Course, just wearing the kilt has been enough to meet some wonderful ladies without the need to join a dating site.

My personals profiles always mention the kilt and show kilted photos. I get lots of responses from ladies interested in kilts...often living much too far away. No clue how they find me - but they do.

No single man ever need be lonely. Just kilt up and go about your day - the ladies will appear.

**Mike in Dayton** · 14th November 13, 10:42 PM

For most of us there is not enough kilted men in a given area to make this practical. As someone else suggested use the main dating services and include your kilt interest in your profile. I have a caution however. I have used two of the larger dating sites. I wear a kilt about 50% of the time so I included the kilt in my profile along with a picture or two. I found that many women reading my profile were confused about the kilt or just thought it was strange. Now I did get a couple of first contacts because of the kilt but that was more of an exception.

Acceptance of the kilt also has a dependency on where you live and maybe the age group you are in. Areas of the country that have a higher Celtic heritage may do better with a kilted profile.

There was one incident that has me confused to this day. I received a first contact from a lady that said nothing about the kilt in her initial message. She talked more about my dog in one of the pictures than anything else. I think she wanted to date my dog. We exchanged a few emails and decided to meet at a park as long as I brought my dog as chaperone. I debated about wearing my kilt. Normally I would arrange for a dinner at an Celtic restaurant so the kilt would fit in with the establishment. I decided to wear my kilt. When I arrived she said she was not surprised I wore the kilt. We had a nice walk and chat. Spent about two hours with her. She gave me her phone number as we left. I told her I would call her the next night. The next morning I had an email from her. The timestamp on the email was a little after midnight. She ripped me a new one over the kilt. So she must have talked to someone or looked up something that turned her off on kilts. I did not argue with her. I just replied that kilts were not for everyone and wished her the best.

Overall my opinion of dating sites is negative. They are a waste of time. The women won't communicate. I read and study their profile and respond accordingly. I even ask a question to give them a reason to respond. If someone takes the time to read and compose a message you should at least acknowledge the message even if you close by saying "sorry I don't think we are compatible". One site has color icons by each name that indicates how they respond to messages. The women are mostly red (respond very selectively; more like not at all). Also, men and women have unrealistic expectations of who they will find on the site. What is also missing is the chemistry that one has when you meet someone in person. Dating sites put the cart before the horse so to speak. Instead of wasting your time on dating sites get out in public and meet real people.

Mike

**OC Richard** · 20th November 13, 06:26 AM

Originally Posted by Riverkilt

On some on line dating deals you can search for specific words in the lady's profile....a few years back I searched for "kilt" and found over 100 ladies who mentioned their love of kilts in their profile....on a regular dating site.

Now that is very cool!

Cool that the ladies mention it, cool that you researched it.

I hit 25 years married in January and no imminent need for such things, but it's good to know such things exist.