Im in a bit of a spot concerning a wedding...

**weeknee** · 14th May 12, 02:58 PM

A very good friend of mine is getting married. This is neither his nor hers first. I inquired to the groom if it would be ok to come cilted. He said no problem. A few days later he says no that it would detract from the bride and she doesnt want that. I send pics of kilted wedding goers to the bride to be to show exactly what im gettin at....still No... Ok, says I. Weeks go by and I finally get to meet the new to be bride. Things are very pleasent and after the evening is over, she sends me a text explaining that she understands now what the kilt means to me and it would be fine to be kilted. Im a happy guy now. Next day Im having a chat with the groom to doubly make sure the kilt will be fine. He says he dont mind at all as long as Im there. He then starts to quiz me on the color of my jacket and shirt and such because i Need to match. Says I, why do i need to match?? It drones on from there into a whos on first episode.
Ill just cut to the chase and now Im standing up with the groom. This I did not know.
So my question to the rabble: Is it alright and in good taste for only one groomsman to be kilted in a wedding party?? My first inclination is to say "no" but my second thoughts are " who cares, the bride gave her permission"
Learned advice from the wisened would be greatly appreciated.

**RockyR** · 14th May 12, 03:05 PM

If you're IN the wedding party, I'd tow the line and dress the same as the other groomsmen. If you REALLY want to wear the kilt, Bring it with you and change after you've been announced at the reception.

**ctbuchanan** · 14th May 12, 03:11 PM

*** - seems a sound compromise.

**Father Bill** · 14th May 12, 03:16 PM

I hate "uniforms" for weddings. It's not a normal way to get dressed. Ideally, the bride and groom whould state the order of dress and the wedding party would dress accordingly. The uniform idea has been foisted on young couples by a greedy multi-million dollar wedding industry, and has created untold and undeserved misery for many of them.

**R.P.Wallace** · 14th May 12, 03:24 PM

I second what Rocky said

**brewerpaul** · 14th May 12, 03:59 PM

Originally Posted by RockyR

If you're IN the wedding party, I'd tow the line and dress the same as the other groomsmen. If you REALLY want to wear the kilt, Bring it with you and change after you've been announced at the reception.

Ditto on this and make sure you have a nice flask of scotch in your sporran to enjoy at the reception.

**Bob C** · 14th May 12, 04:07 PM

Rocky nailed it. Some here do not want to hear it, but kilts are not always appropriate.

**kilted guys wife** · 14th May 12, 04:35 PM

My husband had a issue like that at a friends wedding the bride flip flopped between tuxs clan kilts and kilts in all Irish national to be matchy matchy. So what the bride says is law on the wedding day, however i would still line up you suit, tux, whatever in case she changes her mind again (her right as a woman and the bride, I can say that since I are one)

**Dale Seago** · 14th May 12, 05:04 PM

I'm with Rocky on this one.

And brewerpaul.

**chrisupyonder** · 14th May 12, 05:30 PM

Originally Posted by Father Bill

I hate "uniforms" for weddings. It's not a normal way to get dressed. Ideally, the bride and groom whould state the order of dress and the wedding party would dress accordingly. The uniform idea has been foisted on young couples by a greedy multi-million dollar wedding industry, and has created untold and undeserved misery for many of them.

I am with Father Bill on this one. I hate weddings where everyone is dressed exactly the same. Looks odd to me and probably engineered by the hire industry.

Chris.