Jockscot is right on! Forget the medals too, not military affair. You say might be deal breaker if they answer nay. How bad do you want to go, kilt or no kilt? Several years ago the local tux store was having a big sale on old used things. I bought two coats (one for $2, the other for $50 plus pants & couple shirts), all for the sake of versatility. My son went ebay and got his entire tux outfit for wedding for less then it would cost him to rent one.

I hate it when others think the dress kilt package isn't black tie! But then look at all the high school proms where kilts have been banned, including Wm. Mackintosh High School outside Atlanta some 15 yrs ago. School foyer even has life-size painting of Wm Mackintosh in kilt, principal of Scot descent (Hamilton), school district superintendent (a Darylimpale) all said no go. Letters from even direct descendant of Wm Makintosh, Dod Mackintosh, and the Mackintosh of Mackintosh even sent a letter, all fell on deaf ears.

Luckily when my one son went to prom, nobody said a thing about his kilt.