To paraphrase another's earlier post in this thread bit with an entirely opposite bend, I was wearing my wife (aka Wife here on X) long before I started wearing the kilt, and she now says had I worn a kilt even just once during our dating she would have dropped me like a bad habit. She has never approved of it, never gotten used to it, constantly delivers "the look" whenever I decide to don it and "the argument" whenever I suggest it as my dress for any given occasion. Oh she tolerates it for my golfing days, renfaires, kilt nights, and highland games, sometimes even accompanying me along with our kilted son (aka The Boy). She views it as an affectation to get attention rather than me wearing what I like and feel comfortable in, and it definitely makes her uncomfortable when I wear it in her presence. She will never get Used to it, never sanction it. She is full blooded Dutch-american, born here of Dutch immigrant parents, and she prides herself in that with all manner of dutch paraphernalia and heritage items (you should see her gardening in a pair of real dutch wooden shoes), but she feels she has the right to this because of the proximity of her heritage to her current status, i.e. one generation removed. My scottish heritage is by surname, along with a few other scottish surnames in the old family tree, but apparently 20+ generations removed from my most likely last scottish ancestor, and at least 10-12 generations here in "the new world". I am probably the first and only (save The Boy) member of my family to don the kilt in several hundred years, so she wonders why me and why now and why is she being subjected to it. All understandable.

What can I say, she does not like it, has a right to that opinion and feeling, and we have an uncomfortable relationship in that regard when it comes to me, and the boy, wearing the kilt when we feel like it. The argument never works when turned the other way, as I have never ever told her what to wear and when to wear it and would never consider doing so. Oh well. Just the way our relationship rolls. Sometimes you just have to get used to not agreeing on everything and keep on living with unresolved conflict, finding your own dynamic equilibrium based on your own personal situation and relationship.

Good luck with that.