DD - sorry to hear things may not happen as anticipated. Most experiences seem more fun when shared with someone.

In the event circumstances change and she can join you, I think a wrap or sash in the tartan of your kilt would be great. So what if the assumption is made that you're hitched. Big whoop. Might score you an invite to the captain's table or something.

For me, the kilt-sash connection greases the skids with my other half. The only kilt for which I have not purchased a matching sash for her is my SWK Nightstalker -- only because there isn't one (hint, hint). If we're going out to an event together and I'm kilted, it's a 99.9% certainty she'll work up a coordinating outfit that uses the matching sash. She hasn't gone the rosette route but usually drapes it across herself, ties a good bow or crosses the ends and secures it with a brooch. She's used a thistle/amythest pin I got her, one of my Douglas badges, etc as a brooch. Lots of options.

DD