Alright so this is something I didn't expect to have to post, but I'm having difficulties with my significant other regarding kilts.

Now first, let me explain my 'intent' with kilts. I've always thought kilts were great and always said I would wear one for my wedding. It never occured to me that they could be worn casually or especially daily. I don't intend to wear them daily. I like Kilts alot, I intend to wear them occasionally, and for special occasions. So while I don't want to wear them every day, I certainly expect there will be days when I just feel like wearing one, and will. But I like some variety in my wardrobe and I do enjoy wearing pants and suits as well as kilts.

WHY I want to wear a kilt has more to do with respect for my family and a display of my heritage than anything. It's something I've taken a great interest in. The few times I've worn it out, I've done so with pride, and gotten nothing but positive feedback.

Anyways as I started learning about them and getting into a bit, my fiancee has always been very supportive. She loved (and still loves) the idea of me wearing my kilt at the wedding, and at formal occasions. However it turns out she's basically been supportive because she didn't I was serious about it past that. Basically, she feels that they are meant for formal occasions only, and that's it, and that wearing them outside of that is wierd - her comment was that no one would wear a tux on a normal day.

Some of this was very hurtful .. comments like being concerned about my mental health for thinking about wearing one on any regular basis. She says normal people just don't do that .. not even in Scotland! "It's basically a costume" she says. Basically thinks it would be embarrasing to be with me when I was wearing it. People that wear them every day just want to stand out and be different. All things I was very shocked, and obviously not very happy to hear.

I have tried to explain to her what it means to me, but unfortunately I'm not great with words and I had a hard time explaining it. She doesn't understand because she's never been exposed to it any other way. So I need to sort of sort out my reasons I guess and how to explain them to her. However, I also need to show her that she is wrong and that they are not intended for formal occasions only and can be worn for almost any purpose. I think she also needs to be shown that people's reactions to someone in a kilt are positive - not negative.

The unfortunate part was that part of my interest came from the fact that she had shown interest in it as well. Something that I could talk to her about and she would encourage and help me with. I thought she thought it was great - she was with the guy who wears the kilt! But instead it's more like "Oh great .. now I'm with a guy that wants to wear a kilt .. ". So sadly this conversation has certaintly tarnished it for me a bit.

This was as much of a vent as anything .. thanks for listening ..

It has been a very dissapointing evening.