my thoughts are with you and your wife,
i hope both of you enjoy your respite it`ll seem hard but i think sometimes respite is needed in such circumstances ,my grandmother is currently in respite after much deate with aunts and my mother they felt it'll help everyone recharge mentally and emotionally in some aspects... similar to you they all went on holiday for the time of respite

safe journey and remember to have a bit of fun at Victoria BC also thanks for the showing of stirches house