To wake up some attitudes in a group that had a similar "event", I kept up with the activities of the group and made a mental note. As in your case the officers and "inner circle" chose to ignore the "outsiders". One member took the time and cheerfully and seemed interested in interacting with the many "outsiders". The time came periodically to be asked to help fill the plate. I had observed that the "inner circle" was generally putting checques of ten to fifteen dollars. When I made a donation, I placed "In honour of" and the name of the gent that welcomed us "outsiders". The amount was for fifty dollars. I made sure to do the same at the next event that passed the plate. It got the attention of the "inner circle". I was approached by the secretary, and asked why the honour of. I answered that the honouree was the only member reaching out to welcome people to the activities of the group. They got the message when two others that were visiting had done the same thing. ...Kind of like my playing Queen's We Will Rock You on my bagpipes at five in the morning.....