Anyone's spouse/significant other vehemently opposed to you kilting?

[Java]

This thread has really taken on a life of its own. Please forgive any offense, but the thought of "some" ladies not liking--to vehemently hating the kilt and so on through accesories and headwear...

...seems to be perhaps based on a combination of (their) "lack of ability to control" and perhaps a hair of narrowmindedness when it comes to men wishing to make their OWN fashion statement or decide their own level of comfort...?

My wife doesn't like my kilt wearing either. It's not the kilt she doesn't like, if she met you in the street wearing yours, It wouldn't bother her at all. It's me in a kilt that bothers her. We've been married for 27 years, and for right or wrong, everything one of us does reflects on the other one. She wouldn't wear anything so "unusual" so it embarasses her when I do. There. I defended her point of view, because I love her. Now let's talk about how much it sucks...............

Have Fun,
Java

[Mike in Dayton]

My wife doesn't like my kilt wearing either. It's not the kilt she doesn't like, if she met you in the street wearing yours, It wouldn't bother her at all. It's me in a kilt that bothers her. We've been married for 27 years, and for right or wrong, everything one of us does reflects on the other one. She wouldn't wear anything so "unusual" so it embarasses her when I do. There. I defended her point of view, because I love her. Now let's talk about how much it sucks...............

Have Fun,
Java

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

[CDNSushi]

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

Which is either related to, or symptomatic of, the related illness: "not in my backyard" syndrome.

[James Hood]

The last two posts deserve applause for on-target, appropos brevity.

"Nice, attractive, but not on my man (also read, "wretched victim").

[Dale Seago]

The last two posts deserve applause for on-target, appropos brevity.

"Nice, attractive, but not on my man (also read, "wretched victim").

Or perhaps more to the point, "Not on MY man who by wearing it may attract OTHER women".

[kykilted]

I'm lucky my wife loves me in a kilt. She liked the looks of them last year at a ren fest and bought my first one right then and there after I told her that I liked the look of them too. We went back to the lady who sold her that first kilt this past weekend and thanked her for her help last year. The lady was thrilled that we were haveing a good time with kilting.
Sorry for you guys whose wife/SO is not thrilled with your kilt wearing. My ex would not have allowed me I am sure but her narrowsighted outlook on life is just one of many reasons she is an EX!

[Jay]

I have run into this same attitude. It is the "not on my man" syndrome. They like my kilt and always make good comments about it but they don't want "their" man to wear one.

Mike

Im sure wardrobe is not the only way these spouses show their "ownership" attitude.

[Java]

Im sure wardrobe is not the only way these spouses show their "ownership" attitude.

Isn't the internet cool? You can bust into a thread and insult everyone's wives, and they can't do anuthing about it!!!

It's not about "ownership". It's about caring enough about another person to have an opinion about what they're wearing. I don't remember anyone saying that they weren't "allowed" to wear one. Some of us have wives that don't like us wearing kilts. We're just in here talking amongst ourselves about that. We can appreciate that you're too cool to care what women think. The rest of us will just carry on with our little thread.

Hav Fun,
Java

[Nighthawk]

Isn't the internet cool? You can bust into a thread and insult everyone's wives, and they can't do anuthing about it!!!

It's not about "ownership". It's about caring enough about another person to have an opinion about what they're wearing. I don't remember anyone saying that they weren't "allowed" to wear one. Some of us have wives that don't like us wearing kilts. We're just in here talking amongst ourselves about that. We can appreciate that you're too cool to care what women think. The rest of us will just carry on with our little thread.

Hav Fun,
Java

The very first post says:

Has / does anyone have the experience of your spouse / significant other being vehemently opposed to your owning / wearing the kilt?

Just asking....

Correct me if I'm wrong here... but doesn't "vehemently opposed" mean the same as "not allowed?" And then there are the numerous posts about wives who refuse to be seen in public with a spouse in a kilt. That's a wife saying "You're not allowed to do that, and I will punish you for it." I don't tell my wife how to dress, and I expect the same respect in return. Not allowing a grown man to dress himself, especially if the manner of dress is perfectly appropriate, it shows a blatant lack of respect and need for control of the husband. Hence the comment about ownership. Now if I were going about my day to day life wearing a great kilt, Renaissance period shirt, and buckle brogues... that would be a little silly. And I could see objections. But a normal modern kilt? If you don't like me wearing it, then that's your issue, and you can get the he** over it. However, a lot of people don't like that attitude, and seem to think that instead letting me live my life, they have the right to force their views on me. That's the ownership issue.

So you see, not everyone's wives were insulted. The only ones who might have been are the ones who think they should control their husbands mode of dress. And if they take is an insult, well... the truth stings some times.

[Java]

....... Now if I were going about my day to day life wearing a great kilt, Renaissance period shirt, and buckle brogues... that would be a little silly.

OK, we agree 100% on that point. That's a great example of what I'm trying to say. These women are saying the kilt crosses the line and is outside the realm of "normal" acceptible fashion. You and I have just chosen to say "no, the kilt is inside the line, but the great kilt (etc) is outside the line." To these women there is no difference. Again, obviously I'm on your side. Is there nothing your wife could dress in that would make you say "Really, you're going out in that?" I think you've actually figured it out here. It's the old "is it a costume or is it clothing" debate. You and I see it as clothing. My wife sees it as a costume. She'll get over it eventually.

I guess what actually set me off though, is if the traditional guys are talking about the proper number of buttons to wear on a certain kind of vest, I don't bust in and say"You're all a bunch of idiots, just wear a hoodie." I expect them to not bust into a "what kind of boots/socks" thread and call us a bunch of crossdressers. I generally agree with Jay on most stuff, but it seems to me like that's what he did here.

I'm happy for whoever doesn't have the problem. But someone without the problem coming in here and judging our relationships is like someone with no children who thinks they are an expert at raising them. Or these 110 lbs guys with a hummingbird's metabolism that can eat all day long telling me I have no self control and I should hit a salad bar. They should not be so quick to judge stuff they know nothing about.

Have Fun,
Java