Quote Originally Posted by JohnAllen
... Anyhow we all know our wives, and what works for one man's wife may or may not work on another...
This is very true. However... whatever the process..., at some point, they must be made to realize that the issue is not going to go away simply by them acting negatively. They must be made to realize that submission on certain issues is just not an option. Women went through the same deal with pants/trousers in the '60s/'70s. I presume she doesn't see women in pants = butch! It is so important to be just as strong on the homefront as outside the home. If we are not, their respect for us and our own self respect is diminished.

... Like I said I am slowly trying to condition her, but then when the emotional trigger gets tripped, It won't matter how much preconditioning has been done, so I have to remove all "emotional" objections.. "Trigger Trippers" It takes time... Any Ideas you have on doing that is very much appreciated....
I hope this doesn't mean that you have to post here in secret.

Doing things in secret could backlash on you if she finds out from someone else. As much as we may "worship" our wives, we tend to let their "emotional triggers" control us. ( Most wives use this from time to time because it works.... or we let it work.) You may ultimately find that a "wham" between the eyes... "get it all over with at once" approach may be the better way to go with this. Ultimately, she will have have to respect your decision whether she agrees with it or not. You are, after all, a man standing steadfastly and undeterred by her emotional manipulation. At the same time, it must be done with love, understanding and lots of reassurance as well as determination.

Good luck with this.

blu