I noticed your pictures in your gallery. It looks like the Amerikilt fits you just right, and you wear it well. I wouldn't say it looks even a little bit girly. The only difference between that and a fitted traditional kilt would probably be that the waist comes a bit higher. The way it tapers out is part of the "look", if it were straight-cut, no taper, it would look like a tube-skirt, and really look girly.

My guess is that it's not really the cut that bothers your wife deep down. I know she says it's not the idea of it, but it takes a while to get used to something as new as you not wearing trousers. I wouldn't be surprised if she tells you that your traditional kilt looks girly when it's completed. I know a few people who would look at you with a straight face and tell you that a pair of ladies' jeans would look more masculine on you than a men's kilt.

Just be patient with the Missus, she may need some time to warm up to your new masculine calling, and no doubt she'll need to hear some compliments from other women before she starts to perceive it as something wonderful.

Back me up guys, look at our friend's pictures. Does it look even slightly feminine?