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[Jock Scot]

As an observation, there was a time when the bride to be and her mother sat down together and discussed what type of wedding there was to be, The Bride's father lurked, with a large whisky in hand in the next room wondering what the event was going to cost and waiting to hear what kind of wedding there was going to be-------church, cathedral, registry office and if the attire was formal or smart. The Groom to be waited for this information and then acted accordingly-----he knew what he was going to wear depending on the decisions made by the brides family. There was none of this must do , must wear this or that because the bride's aunt does not like the kilt, or formal weddings or some such nonsense. The Groom wears HIS tartan come what may, it is HIS choice IF the kilt is appropriate and with appropriate attire to fit the event. Otherwise, if there is not to be the kilt-------and there are considerations to be made about that----, he conforms with the general formal, smart,or even casual dress attire requirements.

There is still much merit in this system and if anyone, including the Bride's mother, objects----------TOUGH LUCK! I commend these thoughts to all, even in this modern day and age.

[Liam]

As an observation, there was a time when the bride to be and her mother sat down together and discussed what type of wedding there was to be, The Bride's father lurked, with a large whisky in hand in the next room wondering what the event was going to cost and waiting to hear what kind of wedding there was going to be-------church, cathedral, registry office and if the attire was formal or smart. The Groom to be waited for this information and then acted accordingly-----he knew what he was going to wear depending on the decisions made by the brides family. There was none of this must do , must wear this or that because the bride's aunt does not like the kilt, or formal weddings or some such nonsense. The Groom wears HIS tartan come what may, it is HIS choice IF the kilt is appropriate and with appropriate attire to fit the event. Otherwise, if there is not to be the kilt-------and there are considerations to be made about that----, he conforms with the general formal, smart,or even casual dress attire requirements.

There is still much merit in this system and if anyone, including the Bride's mother, objects----------TOUGH LUCK! I commend these thoughts to all, even in this modern day and age.

Jock.... This still may be the case, but I hope the Bridezilla and her Mother days are less common than they used to be. My view is that marriage is an equal partnership and the ceremony to establish it should be as well. Now I am also a believer of the golden rule, ie. he who has the gold rules, or on the case of a wedding, whomever is paying for it has a considerable say in what goes on. In today's modern world, the historic tradition of the father of the bride picking up the tab is not always the norm, so the bride and/or her mother dictating the wedding shouldn't be either.
OP... Sorry for this diversion from your post.

[OC Richard]

The Bride's father lurked, with a large whisky in hand in the next room wondering what the event was going to cost and waiting to hear what kind of wedding there was going to be-------church, cathedral, registry office...

In my case there was none of that, as I was marrying into a large Catholic family, and we got married in the local parish church, as Catholics do. (None of this "beach wedding" or "scuba diving wedding" or so forth.)

There was none of this must do , must wear this or that because the bride's aunt does not like the kilt... The Groom wears HIS tartan come what may, it is HIS choice IF the kilt is appropriate and with appropriate attire to fit the event.

That was my case exactly. It was understood by all from the get-go that I (and many of the attendees) would be kilted.