First Casual Kilt

[WalesLax]

When you wear it to an event without her, try dropping in the phrase "...I couldn't believe how many women came over to comment on how great I looked in my kilt, and that they wish their husbands would..." It triggers either the breaking of a confirmation bias (her bias that society won't accept you in a kilt), or it breaks your neck (in that she murders you). You'd be shocked how much less people say or even notice about you than they do. I had a teaching assistant who wore a Brittany Spears shirt to class every week. In our year end reviews of the class, the professor asked 1) can you tell me what the TA wore to class every week? and 2) what did you think of it? He told us something like 87% of people didn't say anything about the Brittany Spears shirt (WELL after the height of her popularity), and a few of those who did either thought "that was his style," or "he must have been a big fan." A very, very small few said anything like "what was wrong with that weird," and per the TA, only two students even had said anything to him about it (one was also a big Brittany fan, and one to 'bust his chops.')

The flip side is, people WILL notice your kilt. Your wife thinks (this is her bias) they will notice it and think poorly of you, and by association, poorly of her. The best way to break that bias is to slowly show her that people think positively about it. If you can set up a few early positive responses from friends, family, co-workers, or us here on XMTS, that would be a good start. Slowly, her bias will become "people seem to like him in it.

Now, all that said, and this coming from a guy who wore a kilt to a black tie event this past Saturday, my wife will still at times say "just wear a suit."

Happy kilting,

Rob