Greetings Dana,
We have not communicated in the past, but I want you to know that my heart goes out to you. You are doing the right thing. A marriage relationship is Very precious, and must be guarded at all cost. You will receive much more blessing from your beloved than from wearing a piece of cloth around your hips. Tha fact is that most of the things we do are moderated by how we feel others will percieve us. That is OK.
Spend the time you used to spend at Xmarks on your beloved and watch your relationship blossom. May God bless you in this correct decision.

Cheers
Rick