I too am sorry that you find yourself in this situation but you have your priorities straight in preserving you reationship with your wife. I haven't been privy to your online chats so I don't know what the root of your wifes objection is, and it doesn't really matter at this point. I don't think I would start a relationship with a person who didn't like the way I dress, but I wouldn't let the way I dress destroy a loving relationship that existed before my intrest in kilts either. I hope you do continue to be part of this community. It's important to all of us to have your insights, maybe now more than ever because you're dealing with an issue slightly different than ours but still extremely relevant to us. Good luck to both you and your wife.

Jamie