Hi Dana

You won't know me from Adam. I don't think we've exchanged posts before, but I've been around X Marks since the beginning. I also celebrated 25yrs of marriage last September.

I have to say, I honour your decision and admire your loyalty in your relationship with your wife.

However, I'm with the guys who are questionning the amount of control your good lady seems to have over you. If something as little as wearing a kilt occasionally would ruin your marriage, after 25yrs something is not quite right.

There's nothing wrong in wearing a kilt. You've done it now for how long without issue?

When I first got mine there were a few raised eyebrows at home, but once I started wearing it 'out', my wife began to actively encourage me to wear it.

I don't wear it all the time, and I'm careful to pick functions/trips out which are appropriate. Places where I'm not likely to cause discomfort to those around me (including the kids who are both very vocal about my kilt - its just the age they're at when all dads are an embarrassment to them )

My advice then would be this? DON'T give your kilts away. DON'T leave this board. DO try and get along to a kilts night somewhere - your wife does not have to go with you and none of the people she is concerned about seeing you in your kilt will be around.

Excuse my forward comments, Dana, I don't want you to give up on something that obviously gives you enjoyment and a sense of well being.

Al