so i wore a freedom kilt to the bar

**jfellrath** · 1st July 05, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by bubba

Generally women are fairly subtle when they hit on a guy. Since I'm quite happily married I simply refuse to take notice which politly tell the lady I'm not available. Amazing how many variations of that barnyard dance there are.

Exactly - and notice that the women in the group all got it right away, while the guys were just shaking their head and going back to watching the hockey game.

**Magnus Sporrano** · 1st July 05, 09:05 AM

Yeah that might have gone over my head, too. Or maybe even insulted me (marketing at a pub while I'm trying to raise a pint with the boys). Womenfolk can be subtle when they want to be, but they almost have to because a woman that is half as forward as your average man risks being labelled as a "slut".

**Verlyn** · 1st July 05, 12:43 PM

??: I don't know Jamie. I don't think I would have ever taken that as being hit on either. Maybe I'm dense on those things too. Oh well, after 23 years of marriage, don't think I need to worry about that anyway.

**jfellrath** · 1st July 05, 12:47 PM

You guys are making me feel much better. Not that I worry about it too often, but some of my female friends had been starting to make me feel like a dumbass.

**Alan H** · 1st July 05, 05:59 PM

I trudge through life utterly and completely oblivious to essentially all of this. I also figure that at my age, none of the women I know give a horses behind about me in that manner, the girls at at school would contact their attourney.... or their shrink.... if the idea crossed anyone's mind, and while the kilt is great fun, absolutely NONE of it is even if one-hundredth of one percent serious.

**Andrew Breecher** · 1st July 05, 08:39 PM

I've found that women, in general, are far more subtle than men. If a man says something, that's exactly what he means. Women say things and they have layers of inference. That's why they get so upset when they tell you, "But I've been hinting for weeks that you should do blah blah blah." That may be so, but I've never picked up on it. I always tell girls to just tell me what they want/think/whatever. If they try to hint at it I'm just not going to pick up on it.

I've also had girlfriends get mad at me for flirting with other girls. I never thought I was flirting. Maybe those other girls were, but I was just being polite.

Andrew.

**mikemisfit** · 2nd July 05, 01:27 AM

well i have to respond now. after being married for 12 years and separated for three (and only being 34) i have to admit i am pretty daft when it comes to females and their ways. and also if you guys knew how i looked you might understand more why i dont 'get it' when a girl is hitting on me. i would post pics but damned if i can figure out how. and pls dont post a million times telling me how. i am not going through the rigamorole of it. if it was simple i would do it. anyway i am 34 and a punk at heart and dress the part. picture 14 hole doc martens kilt,punk rock tshirt and studs. nuff said? i do have pics (if any lasses r viewing lol) anyway guess i just need that blatant shot to the head for me to see.

**bubba** · 2nd July 05, 07:54 AM

Originally Posted by Andrew Breecher

I always tell girls to just tell me what they want/think/whatever. If they try to hint at it I'm just not going to pick up on it.
Andrew.

My wife figured out I wasn't going to pick up on hints and subtlty when she met me so she took direct action and simply told me we were getting married. If she hadn't been that direct I'd have never got the message.