I have to say that if she's serious about that....."I'm going to take our son and leave him if he wears that thing"....if she really means it's divorce-time if you wear a kilt....

......then the two of you have issues FAR beyond anything that kilts may or may not cause. It's JUST A PIECE OF CLOTHING. That argument goes both ways, right?

....She says: Why do you have to insult me and degrade yourself and dress like a woman? You know I hate that kilt. Don't you care what I think and how I feel? It's not that important, it's JUST A PECE OF CLOTHING, can't you get rid of it?

....He says: You don't have to go all ballistic over the kilt. I just like to wear it, and it's a guys garment. There's no reason to pitch a fit, It's JUST A PIECE OF CLOTHING.

Because the "just a piece of clothing" argument goes both ways, the whole thing boils down to a simple matter of respect. You, as an adult, have the right to choose what clothes you want to wear. You can exercise that right with some degree of sensitivity towards the woman you are married to, but int he end, you have the right to wear what you want. If you roll over and let her dictate what you can wear....what's next? Would you let her dictate when you go to the bathroom?

You don't have the right to beat her up. You don't have the right to abuse your child. You don't have the right to to just any damn thing you please. But you DO have the right to wear an article of clothing that you like, as long as basic societal norms in terms of decency are respected.

If she simply cannot get that, if she insists that she has the right to enforce her views on what you can wear, then say "OK. If you have the right to forbid me to wear a kilt, then I have the right to forbid you to wear pants. So lose the pants, woman. Skirts and dresses only from now on."

That will go over like a wall of bricks. have an upfront talk about responsibility, respect and marriage. Hopefully she'll get the point. If she doesn't, if she simply cannot accord you the basic respect to let you wear what you want even now and then, well..... honestly? This is hard-*ss*d but honestly....

I recommend a professional counselor.