Here's my advice, from a guy who started his wedding outfit at 17 which was 3 years before meeting the bride and 5 years before the event. I know it's hard to tell where my crazy ends and my sane begins, or vice versa.

Geoffrey(tailor) has, in my opinion, the best catalogue/brochure. It has information, pictures and lists. You'll find it helpful. You'll find it here: https://www.geoffreykilts.co.uk/loca...age=2100002169

Yes, involve your intended in the planning. Old Scottish saying about trust: you've got to sleep sometime. Can't trust her now, can't trust her in the future? Best to walk away now.

Sgian dhu: only the best man is armed. Or honour party's men. Groom is not, tradition is the best man/men defend and cover and take all challenges until ceremony is over. (No swords, dirks, [guns, Doc] in the chapel/church.)

If ordering from Scotland, order well in advance, tell them the wedding date is a month or two before the actual date. Scotland doesn't know what procrastination is: putting off today what you can do tomorrow (response, "oh, aye, why rush it?")

It's a shame but flesh coloured undies for most tastes because of drunks and fools, which the Good Lord must love because there's so many of them. And your inexperience. Practice.