Well ultimately the one real control we have in our lives is how we react to others. Sure it is nice to say you should be happy with yourself and not need any outside feedback to give you any sense of well being...but that crap. The fact is for millions of years our pack nature has desired a sense of acceptance and love from our "pack" and we still to this day do it, though some more than others. It isn't wrong to want to feel special...Basically what she is saying is you should get no joy from someone reacting positivly to you. doesn't make sense to me...