Quote Originally Posted by Alan H
More than the attractiveness thing, I honestly think what's coming into play here is that I am doing something, yet again, that she does not "control".....wearing kilts. It's outside of her accepted "norm" and I've never done it before. She's not good with change. She has always leveraged her type A skills into power in the relationship, because I severely lack those type A skills. All of a sudden her Type A skills aren't controlling something, and her husband is doing something new and unexpected.

You know, it doesn't work to let one partner control the power in a relationship too much. It CAN'T work, or else there's no relationship, you know? If I always roll over and die and let her run the show, then there's a serious loss of respect that goes along with that, and there's relationship hell to pay for it.
Well, holeeeey crap. You just set lights off in my head. My wife is a HUGE control freak (although, for some reason, she doesnt exercise that controol, or gives it away... she gives up control of a situation, but then when she realizes she doesnt have control of it she freaks).

I bet thats what this whole kilt thing with her is about. Lack of control of me and what I wear and me doing something new and different.

She reacts to it with anger and hatred. No one is sure why. But what you said there about your wife sure shed some light on mine. Thanks ;)