Well, I don't like to give advice, especially on matters as serious as this, but I do have a strong opinion ont hese sorts of matters. I'm just going to point out a few things though.

I am the child of three divorces and an anullment. My mother and father have each been divorced twice (eachother, and a seperate spouse), and the anullment - well - I'm not going to speak on that much.

My mother is now happily remarried, and my father just came out of his second divorce within the last two years. It's difficult for everyone, especially the children (if you have any). I'm still trying to overcome the effects of the first divorce, though I don't feel like the latter ones will have much of an effect on me overall.

If nothing else, it's all served to keep me from wanting to get a divorce, ever. As a result of them, I feel like I will be placing emphasis on whatever I can to help prevent a divorce for me.

I've learned that communication is a very important factor in any relationship, especially a romantic/marital one. It has to be there. As does the trust.

Beyond that, I don't want to say much about your specific situation, but if it were me, I would certainly try to at least discuss it, get the feelings/thoughts out there, and take it from there.

I'm sorry I'm not much in the advice department, but I've learned over time that giving specific advice is a bad idea.

I hope that if nothing else, my post has slipped some ideas on how or why to get through it, or do whatever you need to do.

Beyond that, I wish you, your wife, and your children (again, if you have any) the best in this situation.