Quote Originally Posted by GMan
Hell-o all,

In a conversation today that really had no bearing on kilt wearing, it was mentioned that is being nice all that bad? Well it got me to think about how we react to others and some of the comments that we are asked.

Do we find it hard to gauge what others are saying as a slam or as a serious and honest question?

I know that some have expressed disgust with the "question" only to find out later that for all intensive purposes the one who asks the question is sincere in asking. I must admit that I find that I catch myself with disgust and later regret how I came across.

So I am asking how do we come across nicely in our comments without offending others? Or letting those who want to "slam" us for being different?
Helloo GMan,
I think that yor question is valid if we respond with a knee jerk response to "the question" without listening to both what is being asked and the tone of voice. If we reply, as had been stated on other posts, with a cynical, flip, or sarcastic comment, then we have automatically changed the tone of the conversation, regardless of their intent. However, if we truly listen, and don't assume it is about us wearing a kilt, then we can tailor our response to what was asked and how. I like to think that I am "nice" in all my public conversations, but sometimes that means matching the tone of what was asked.

Good question though! Should prove very thought provoking.