Do I look gay to you!?

[philbo]

Maybe you shouldn't wear so much make-up and perfume. (Just kidding).

I've known a few gay people in my life, but none of them were kilt-wearers. I think that a kilt is an unmistakable sign of masculinity, but obviously there are others who don't think like that. I had a guy hit on me once whilst kilted, and I asked him why he thought I might be gay. He kind of stuttered, "Well, you're wearing... uh... looks like a kilt. I just... never mind." Considering all the female attention I tend to receive (I'm not bragging here, as all you kilt-wearers know) I can tolerate the occasional male flirtations.

[Hamish]

I have always been told that "It takes one to know one", but I have never (as far as I can recollect) been "hit upon", so that hasn't worked for me!!

[Sir Robert]

Dude, take it as a complement and get on with your life.

[Rigged]

Some guys, gay or straight, just play the averages hoping to get lucky. I wouldn't take it personally.

[AckZel]

Well, I actually don't have any problems with the guy but what I though was funny is that he seemed to think I'm gay because I wear a kilt. And didn't hear any explanation.

[davedove]

I had a guy hit on me once whilst kilted, and I asked him why he thought I might be gay. He kind of stuttered, "Well, you're wearing... uh... looks like a kilt. I just... never mind."

Now understand this is all just rumor, but I have heard that some in the gay community are trying to adopt the kilt. Maybe that is what is happening. I would hate to see the kilt become a gay thing.

[Mike1]

Before we start trying to determine what is and is not a 'gay thing', let's ask ourselves where this thread is headed, OK?

For those that may be wondering - yes, that was intended to be a hint.

[Big Paul]

Take it as a complement. If he can't take the hint that his advances are unwelcomed, then that his problem.. Just walk away. No harm no fowl.

[GlassMan]

I say take it as a compliment. The guy thought you were attractive. I know some gay guys who don't care if a guy looks gay or straight, they hit on him. No matter how good your "gaydar" it's impossible to be 100% correct, and their philosophy is that you can't succeed if you don't try first. I guess that's true.

Also consider that at least in the US, most gay men objectify the male form and so have much higher standards than the average female. The gay guys here demand physical perfection but don't seem to care if you have a single living brain cell. So that really makes it a compliment. You lived up to a very high standard.

Now, in case you all are wondering, the answer is Yes. I'm about to celebrate my 9th anniversary of a monogamous relationship with another man. No, we are not flaming queens. I'm a disabled 9-11 firefighter and he's a cop. In fact, most gay friends of ours say that we don't look or act gay at all. And I get hit on my many more women than men.

And as for the kilt being a "gay" garment, I get more negative reactions from gay friends than straight. According to the gay guys, a kilt is NOT the height of fashion. But they follow that up by noting that I was never the height of fashion and always dressed like an old-fart straight guy anyway. While several of my straight friends and acquiantances are thinking of trying a kilt, no gay one will.

Also, I don't wear a kilt because I'm gay. I wear it because it's comfortable and because it is easier to put on for me than pants (being that I have difficulty pointing my foot after my injury).

Whew, hope I didn't burst anyone's bubble about me or about firefighters and cops or kilts.

[Rigged]

he seemed to think I'm gay because I wear a kilt.

Kilts are a fetish for some gay men. I've found a few "up-kilt photo" websites while looking for regular kilt-related websites.