Do I look gay to you!?

**AckZel** · 5th December 05, 11:29 AM

Well, I actually don't have any problems with the guy but what I though was funny is that he seemed to think I'm gay because I wear a kilt. And didn't hear any explanation.

**davedove** · 5th December 05, 11:36 AM

Originally Posted by philbo

I had a guy hit on me once whilst kilted, and I asked him why he thought I might be gay. He kind of stuttered, "Well, you're wearing... uh... looks like a kilt. I just... never mind."

Now understand this is all just rumor, but I have heard that some in the gay community are trying to adopt the kilt. Maybe that is what is happening. I would hate to see the kilt become a gay thing.

**Mike1** · 5th December 05, 11:47 AM

Before we start trying to determine what is and is not a 'gay thing', let's ask ourselves where this thread is headed, OK?

For those that may be wondering - yes, that was intended to be a hint.

**Big Paul** · 5th December 05, 12:05 PM

Take it as a complement. If he can't take the hint that his advances are unwelcomed, then that his problem.. Just walk away. No harm no fowl.

**GlassMan** · 5th December 05, 04:35 PM

I say take it as a compliment. The guy thought you were attractive. I know some gay guys who don't care if a guy looks gay or straight, they hit on him. No matter how good your "gaydar" it's impossible to be 100% correct, and their philosophy is that you can't succeed if you don't try first. I guess that's true.

Also consider that at least in the US, most gay men objectify the male form and so have much higher standards than the average female. The gay guys here demand physical perfection but don't seem to care if you have a single living brain cell. So that really makes it a compliment. You lived up to a very high standard.

Now, in case you all are wondering, the answer is Yes. I'm about to celebrate my 9th anniversary of a monogamous relationship with another man. No, we are not flaming queens. I'm a disabled 9-11 firefighter and he's a cop. In fact, most gay friends of ours say that we don't look or act gay at all. And I get hit on my many more women than men.

And as for the kilt being a "gay" garment, I get more negative reactions from gay friends than straight. According to the gay guys, a kilt is NOT the height of fashion. But they follow that up by noting that I was never the height of fashion and always dressed like an old-fart straight guy anyway. While several of my straight friends and acquiantances are thinking of trying a kilt, no gay one will.

Also, I don't wear a kilt because I'm gay. I wear it because it's comfortable and because it is easier to put on for me than pants (being that I have difficulty pointing my foot after my injury).

Whew, hope I didn't burst anyone's bubble about me or about firefighters and cops or kilts.