Quote Originally Posted by Graham
Still, I will never understand why a man like this wouldn't mention lead weights to a woman in her skirt.
I guess a woman is more attractive to catch on a windy day than me!
Yep- but I've been told by other women that for stopping updrafts, putting a couple large safety pins or the like in the hems of skirts really helps hold down the fort, so to speak.

A man might not mention it to a woman, but they might mention it to a man- after all, wouldn't men know more about men's garments and vice versa? I assume you'd tell someone if you noticed their tie was tied wrong, or if you saw them struggling with a too-big belt, how to poke new holes in it... Obviously, not everyone's in charge of everyone else's appearance, but I've seen men give each other advice of a kindly sort.

Why are you assuming that men are treating your kilt as a skirt? Do you really think if you showed up in frills and high heels he would have made a friendly suggestion? You're a guy, wearing an unsual male garment, that he probably thinks is wicked cool, and wanted to strike up a conversation with the kiltwearer, but since so much of male bonding is portrayed as razzing and one-upmanship, he went with what he knows. The fact remains though, that he said something to a man he would probably never even consider saying to a woman.

I'm increasingly seeing comments on the board like, "He wouldn't have said this to a woman!" Well, I hope not! Because you're not a woman, you're a man, and men have a gender-based comraderie just like women do... they're just (usually) not as talkative about it.

I don't know why this is getting my goat, either... maybe the implication that men should be telling women how to dress because they want to talk to you about the kilt just riles me. :razz: Dangit- this is coming out negative, and I don't mean for it to... I'm just not equipped (obviously) to talk about how men start conversations each other except by observation, but I think that's what happening a lot of times you're accusing them of treating you like a 'woman.' (Unless they're whistling at you and saying, "Hey, pretty mama," I think that's right out!)

Anyway- kilts are not women's skirts, everyone says that all the time on this board. So maybe you could assume people aren't treating them as such, but are actually trying to dialogue with you about something they don't know enough about to start talking on their own?