If a relationship feels right then take it a stage at a time and see how it develops. God has his divine plan for us all and it often differs from what we would have planned for ourselves when we were younger. I was in a passionate relationship for five years then just when she seemed to be pressing me to tie the knot she suddenly went off and married another man (who later became a woman) without even hinting she was about to do so. In the rebound, I hastily married a look alike whom I hardly knew and had a very unhappy and short lived marriage, but gained from it a loving daughter who is now grown up and keeps in contact with me. After a very depressing spell I realised that I was falling in love with Ann, a friend seven years my senior. We eventually tied the knot when I was 33 and she was 40. We had no family and she is now disabled following a stroke but we are happy together after more than twenty years of marriage, and I care for her and work part time from home. Ann encourages me to wear my kilts; indeed I never owned a kilt until after I married Ann.