What does it take?

[Rex_Tremende]

But she thinks that wearing a kilt for ordinary everyday things will be thought odd by our friends and neighbours.

Chances are that she's worried about what your friends and neighbors will think of her. Maybe you could ask a few of your supporters to let her know how much they admire her for her support (whether it's being displayed or not), and that they think she has a great catch in a husband.

Just a thought,
Rex in Cincinnati

[kilted in kleaveland]

I think Rex has hit on to something. Women can be just as " protective " as men about thier s/o. Or perhaps she is a little jealous of all the attention
( real or persieved ) that you get. I do agree that you should continue to aclimate her to the idea that kilts are for everyday occasions. Don't, however force this on her, but give valid reasons such as comfort, testicular health, and the fact that you want to look good for her.

[Chris Webb]

Look, you wear a kilt when practically nobody else does ... you're an oddball. Of course, so am I.

It's OK to be an oddball. One of the advantages of being an oddball is that nobody ever expects an oddball to have "reasons" for being one outside of simply being odd. In fact, if you start to make it your habit to explain yourself you cease to be an oddball and cross over into the realm of being an troublemaker.

It is said that a member of polite society will dress not for himself but for others. Search this site if you will but you will find no posts that directly state that anyone here wears a kilt for anyone but themselves. My comfort, my heritage, my testicular health ... to the discomfort of others, wives being a particularly thorny subset of the society we are defying.

Your most effective defense of wearing your kilt is simply to offer no defense at all while consistently wearing it. Your consistency will establish your eccentricity and your eccentricity will be answer enough. You have to accept that to be an eccentric you must, by definition, not care about the opinions of others regarding it. If you care about your wife's discomfort then you are simply putting your own sense of comfort ahead of hers, something a true eccentric wouldn't be aware of doing.

Oddly enough, it seems many people in polite society enjoy the occassional oddball, even envy him a bit. It is possible that one day there will be enough of us kilt wearing oddballs that it will cease to be odd to wear one. But until that unlikely distant day I will continue to embrace my own oddness with out apology and ...

Kilt On.

Chris Webb

[Ne Oublie]

My wife loves me to wear a kilt, it makes no difference where we are going or what we are doing, wear the kilt. I do draw the line at one thing though, I won't wear it on the motorcycle!

[MacWage]

Eccentric?? Who????? ME????? :confused:

I was the ONLY kilted one at a car gathering in Deal's Gap, NC/Tenn (US-129) this weekend. Now, I am known in some circles as "The Kilted One" (but-> could be MUCH worse).

I would venture to guess MOST of us who are here would classify ourselves as "eccentric" in one way or another!

The Kiled One (in Miata-dom),

[Blu (Ontario)]

Just a couple of random thoughts as I was browsing your thread...

Rex & Rocky have both made excellent points. In addition, I can only suggest that there must be a gene for kilts... and some people have it & some people don't.

Like you, I met with resistance in the initial stages. I've managed to overcome that resistance for the most part through persistance, intelligent discussion, some compromise, and more persistance. Over time she has come to realize that it's harmless and sometimes fun.

I'm not even close to being a full time kilt wearer myself but I might suggest that increasing the frequency of kilt wearing slowly may be less of a shock to her system.

blu