I'm wondering if it's something as simple as a woman asking someone wearing a "skirt" to sit the way a lady would sit if she were wearing one.

It's hard to get inside someone else's head, so maybe it's best to assume good intentions in the absence of other evidence.

Most people know very little about kilts and have only their own experience to draw from. That experience is women and girls wearing skirts and dresses. Just like guys who think they're supposed to shave their legs when they wear a kilt because [most] women shave their legs when they wear skirts, many people don't know how a man is supposed to wear a kilt.

Many of us didn't know before we came here.