I know how you feel
I used to live in Taos NM, there is alot of down side to NM
we left there to go back to Va.
after living many years living west of the great divide in Ut. Alaska. and NM it was hard to live back East again so we returned to UT.

I plan to escape from Utah this summergoing to move somewhere that Adulthood is legal
After much looking and thinking we have settled on the Pacific Norhtwest

I'll be house hunting this week in NW Washington

Best of luck
I know that moving is hard and you always wonder if its the best choice