Family problems stemming from the kilt

[Peter C.]

I tend to agree with David. You say you were a fanatic but your dad is even worse and talks of nothing else. Before this happened your dad must have spent time talking about all sorts of things with your mom, now she has lost all of that, she must feel very left out and possibly lonely. She probably needs to know that you and your dad love her.

It is not your fault, and your dad probably can't help it if he has an obsessive nature, it is very easy to get addicted to this Scottish thing.

It would be a shame if you had to give up your interest in your ancestry but you could moderate it and let your dad see that it is not the be all and end all, and make an effort to show mom that she is important to you, maybe dad will follow.

You mention their shared Norwegian blood. Some people, and your mom may be one, love their family as it is today, where they came from is not important.

Your family today is much more important than a small thread of your ancestry.

This is a very awkward position for a young person and you must understand that what ever happens it is not your fault.

Good luck

Peter