Hi RB,

I spent three weeks in Palm Springs, in a gated community, in October last year, and was kilted the entire visit. We 'escaped' most days and went downtown or to the pool; we went to restaurants in both PS and Cathedral City; we went into the Imperial Sand Dunes and to Joshua Tree NP, and we took the tramway up into the mountains. Not once were I, my similarly kilted pal or our hosts, aware of any untoward comments at all in those three weeks. Maybe it is different, however, if you have been known there previously living one lifestyle, and suddenly present your neighbours with another.

My belated condolences to you.