First off welcome. Yeah sounds like you had a bad day. You'll find there are a few ignorrant people out there. Fortunatly there are far, far more people receptive of kilts. There are a few full-time kilties on this forum that wear kilts at work, you'll also find those that have been told by management that they cannot wear kilts, again ignorance but kilts are a cultural item and not a religious requirement. You will also read on these pages their personal battles for that, the tactics, politics and arguements. The sucessful and the not quite so.

One thing you mention raises a concern though;

I'm what my friends describe as bi-gendered. Basically, I don't believe in traditional male roles or stereotyped dress. If I want to do something or wear something, I'll do what I like. Though, I will state, I do it with style and taste. That being said, I understand some people have a problem with it.
Perhaps I'm reading more than what you wrote and if so I appologize. Do you see a kilt as a form of cross dressing? We have many a member here that are gay but they see kilts as nothing less than a what they are; a man's garment. We are proud of our kilts, we feel "the power of the kilt". We make the lasses swoon and their gentlemen jealous. And we all have had to deal with and hopefully educate, both men and women that see a kilt as a skirt.

I feel for you that you had a bad day. I also hope it will be an exception rather than the norm. There is a wealth of information here on the forum and from it's members. I hope you'll fell at home here.