Wives' reactions?

[Smayniac]

My now ex bought my first Sportkilt for me for Christmas, but has never been thrilled when I wore it out anywhere. Even with my newer and better quality (still Sport)kilts, she claims to be worried for my "safety".

My eight year old son is hit or miss, sometimes he's very up on it, and sometimes he can't go there. We did bring kilts with us to SoCal this week, but as yet, he hasn't had his on.

Bob

[Steeplechase]

My wife thought I was "nuts" when I bought my first kilt. She liked the way I looked, just wasn't sure about me wearing it in public. She refused to be seen with me while I was kilted. Until I got her to attend a Highland Games, where she saw that I wasn't the only guy that wore a kilt. She now is comfortable with the kilt.

[auld argonian]

It has not worked out as well as I had hoped it would.

Best

AA

[jrmiller]

My wife saw kilts as "skirts" initially, but recently she has cooled off. She says she is not as nervous being with me when kilted as she used to be. We recently attended the Dublin Irish Festival and there were lots of kilted men there (and some kilted women). I believe that has helped my case a wee bit.

My brother's girlfriend can't stand it and gives me the cold shoulder. However, she and I never really did see eye to eye. She is very controlling and does a good job of keeping my brother in place. She is probably frustrated because I am outside her influence. Just happy I don't have to live with her!

[triolamj]

My ex-wife never warmed to me wearing a kilt. Part of it was esthetic, part of it was cultural, and part of it was financial. I'm no George Lazenby and even full formal Highland dress can't change that. I wear a kilt because I'm part of the local Highland Games to support the children's athletics and also represent the local Irish (I'm not Scottish). In my ex's culture, a man in a kilt is like a man in a dress, a man who's less than masculine. Finally, and consider this a warning: she didn't like the amount of money that I spent on my accessories, even though most of it was out of gift money from my parents or overtime earnings from work. Even though she knew what a cheap bastard I could be, I think she overestimated just how much I spent on myself as opposed to her and was jealous of it. On the other hand, she didn't like my teammates when I played rugby (for good reason) or for the folks on the Hash (despite them really liking her), so why should my wearing a kilt be any different. Hopefully, Ms. Next will like me in a kilt, like me out of a kilt, like going to Burns Suppers, enjoying craic at a pub, walking in St. Patrick's Day parades, and visiting at the Clan tents at the local games. Just remember though that if you support your missus in some hobby that you don't particularly care for, she's more likely to not mind your kilt collecting.

[ForresterModern]

Mine loves some of the more attractive tartans when she sees them, but is not fond of me wearing a kilt. Calls it a dress, says it takes away her sex drive. She is fine with me wearing it in expected kilted situations (Highland games, our recent trip to Scotland) but not when I am just out on the town or at work, and especially not when I am with her in a normally non-kilted situation. She also is not pleased with the amount of money I spend/have spent on highland wear and accessories, even though we are not hurting for money by any means. She even gives me grief for "wasting" my time reading and contributing on this forum.

I tell her that I make a great living that supports both of us and our baby boy, don't get drunk or high, don't run around or cheat on her, don't spend all my time with a bunch of guys, come straight home from work, am not abusive either verbally or physically, and am a pretty damn good father and husband (although far from perfect). I think I am allowed a couple benign and relatively inexpensive (compared to our income) hobbies/vices.

I still have a couple more tartans I want kilts made from so I have to slow pedal the purchase rate a bit since I no longer have the impending Scotland trip to use as an excuse (got back over a month ago----wore kilts 9 out of ten days).

She thought it was cute when I bought an infant kilt to honor the birth of our son a few months ago, and in anticipation of the Scotland trip with him. He really looked cute in his.

But for some reason this has become her current pet peave with me and I am not sure how to address it except to tell her it is something I am getting more and more interested in and I wish she could enjoy the fact that I can find benign and fun things to be interested in instead of the other potentially bad things I could be doing. Trying not to make it an issue while still keeping up my kilt wearing with at least some frequency beyond highland games and special occasions..

Any help anybody could throw my way would be greatly appreciated. I love my wife and our relationship, while far from perfect, is pretty damn great. I don't want this to become a serious issue between us, but I also don't want to give up something I now find very enjoyable.

[SexyButler]

Mine loves some of the more attractive tartans when she sees them, but is not fond of me wearing a kilt. Calls it a dress, says it takes away her sex drive. She is fine with me wearing it in expected kilted situations (Highland games, our recent trip to Scotland) but not when I am just out on the town or at work, and especially not when I am with her in a normally non-kilted situation. She also is not pleased with the amount of money I spend/have spent on highland wear and accessories, even though we are not hurting for money by any means. She even gives me grief for "wasting" my time reading and contributing on this forum.

I tell her that I make a great living that supports both of us and our baby boy, don't get drunk or high, don't run around or cheat on her, don't spend all my time with a bunch of guys, come straight home from work, am not abusive either verbally or physically, and am a pretty damn good father and husband (although far from perfect). I think I am allowed a couple benign and relatively inexpensive (compared to our income) hobbies/vices.

I still have a couple more tartans I want kilts made from so I have to slow pedal the purchase rate a bit since I no longer have the impending Scotland trip to use as an excuse (got back over a month ago----wore kilts 9 out of ten days).

She thought it was cute when I bought an infant kilt to honor the birth of our son a few months ago, and in anticipation of the Scotland trip with him. He really looked cute in his.

But for some reason this has become her current pet peave with me and I am not sure how to address it except to tell her it is something I am getting more and more interested in and I wish she could enjoy the fact that I can find benign and fun things to be interested in instead of the other potentially bad things I could be doing. Trying not to make it an issue while still keeping up my kilt wearing with at least some frequency beyond highland games and special occasions..

Any help anybody could throw my way would be greatly appreciated. I love my wife and our relationship, while far from perfect, is pretty damn great. I don't want this to become a serious issue between us, but I also don't want to give up something I now find very enjoyable.

Between Ron/Riverkilt and I, I think we could limit a practice to these issues.
Ahem, Ron, Ron?

It isn't that unusual at all my friend, send a PM. You are brave in every sense of the word.

[Phicong]

When I got my first kilt, a AK, she thought that it cost too much. She still feels that way. She accepts my wearing kilts nearly 100% of the time, but will still refers to it as a skirt. However, she defends it when others say anything about it. I believe she really does not like it though, as she has said several times that she things guys are sexier in jeans.

[The F-H.C.A.G.]

My dear, beloved husband would not dream of responding to this thread himself, without consulting me first.

He asked me to respond for him (after reading the entire thread of course! ).

My husband owns 14 kilts.

I bought (or made) them all.

'Nuff said.

Be well,

[KiltedBrewer]

I lucked out. My wife was supportive of me wearing the kilt from day one. Even my mother-in-law has come to accept it, even though she initially thought I was joking when I said I wanted to get married in a kilt. (As soon as she saw me on the wedding day, she apologized profusely and has done so again on several occasions.)

I am one happily kilted guy!