Well, I'm almost sorry that I suggested calling her first. It probably worked out for the best. Just don't close the door behind you.
I agree with Ron's suggestion. Post on some single forums. See if there are any single organizations or clubs in your area. Go kilted. When I was your age, I was a member of "Parents without Partners". A great organization to do things with other singles and not be with "anyone" till you want to.
Good luck