Going on a first date in a kilt?

[McFarkus]

Be yourself!

[camellid]

Let me be clear on what I mean by piss off to the young lady. That is what I was thinking, not how I put it. I was nice and polite and said to her that, "if a man in a kilt make you unconfitable that we would not be a good match". Then I said "that we can still chat online and on the phone" So we parted on good terms.(no feelings hurt at all)

As for dating again. I am not an any hurry to date. I am kinda old fashion, so internet dating is not my cup of tea. I will just wait for the one. If find the ONE, (great) If I don't no real big thing. (I will always have my dog to hang with me).

I will always wear my kilts. No woman will ever stop me from that. I have only been wearing kilts for about 5 months and I am hooked. I can't stop buying kilts. I am now up to 11 kilts. But I still have not got my first tank. That will be in the near future.

[ronstew]

So I told her to "piss off" in so many words.

Sorry that I misunderstood you. Had you written, "not in so many words" your meaning would have been clear to me.

[camellid]

Sorry that I misunderstood you. Had you written, "not in so many words" your meaning would have been clear to me.

No big deal. I just didn't want people to think I would talk to someone like that. I was tired when I wrote that. My mistake.

[planemaker]

It was her loss. Good Luck in the hunt.

[Brasilikilt]

Hey there

If I were you, I would wear my kilt as often as I pleased.
I really applaud your reaction to her ignorant statement of you wearing a "skirt" dictated the fact that you no longer desire her company.

There is a certain supreme confidence that goes along with kilt wearing, and women see that and are often attracted to men who don't give a crap about what anyone else thinks.
Stick to your guns and don't let any undeserving broad dictate otherwise.

[Laird O'the Cowcaddens]

Good for you pal. As to the "skirt/dress" comment, my wife is usually on the utterer before I can open my mouth; yu got to luv em,don't ya.

[CDNSushi]

My wife still refers to kilts as "skirts" because she says she keeps forgetting and that "skirt" is just "easier to say" whatever that means. Nonetheless, with her it's only semantics. The implication is not that of a "skirt" nor has she been nothing but supportive of my kilt-wearing.

Anyway, when I read Camel's followup post, I actually read it as good news! I was very happy that this was straightened out BEFORE wasting a perfectly good evening and possibly dropping a ton of $$$ on someone who won't likely be compatible with you.

Plus, there's nothing to say that once she turns it over in her head a few times, maybe even asks some of her friends what they think or looks on the net, she might do a 180 and there might be a future email/phone call coming from her in the future. You never know.

[Brewboy]

I've been kilted for a year and a half now, and am what many would call a floosie. My experience is that women, more often than not, love the kilt. I think this is because of the reasons others have stated (confidence, bad boy syndrome, etc.). However, while women I've been involved with love the kilt initially, most have cooled to the idea when it sinks in that I do wear them as near daily attire. In other words, the old stereotype: Something is initially sexy, but not what they really want on a daily basis, so they seek to change it. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS, just most that I've dated since being kilted (and I know many men who follow this pattern too).

I personally have never understood this, and have said on more than one occasion, "I was wearing a kilt when you met me." The logic is, of course, useless when it comes to arguing an issue of emotion and personal choice.

Fear not! There are women out there who really do love the kilt. I am dating one right now. She gets disappointed when I don't wear the kilt. If you are looking to bump into someone who is into the idea of the kilt as a full time garment, then I would suggest the theater community (especially costumers), the ren-fair crowd, and Scottish themed events such as highland games. Not to say that you won't meet that person anyway, but I think it will increase your odds of meeting someone like that. This is based not only on my experience, but on the experience of kiltie friends as well.

As for 1st dates, I've gone both ways (pants and kilt-gutter mind) with results on both sides of the fence. My current girlfriend loves the kilt, and I waited until our 3rd date to be kilted. When I wore it she attacked me, apparently she had been waiting for the kilt since she heard about it the first time we met. Waiting seemed to work in my favor. When it comes to dating it isn't whether or not you're going to reveal something about yourself, I think you should always be honest and open, but at what point do you reveal something about yourself as a relationship progresses. It just depends on the person.

If you aren't looking for a serious relationship, then the kilt is like a porch light for female moths. What a horribly worded metaphor. Anyway, have fun.

[rodandy]

Not to hijack the thread, but I'm reminded of a quote I read somewhere:

A man marries a woman expecting she won't change, and she does.

A woman marries a man expecting him to change, and he doesn't.

They both end up unhappy.

End of hijack...