Two points caught my attention :

Barb said dancers did not wear kilt pins. Oh?
I've rarely seen a klit without one, personally.

Friday advised "check to see if they accept men".
I've never come across a dance group that did not welcome new men (provided of course that they know their left foot from their right), since the male/female ratio is usually quite unbalanced.

I don't wish to dwell on delicate matters, but it has always been a tradition, even within the military, to be correctly "dressed" when dancing.

Martin