Well, AJWatson has his answers, so this note's a bit late, but as a bride-to-be I'd like to chime in! My first thought was to ask the brides and clarifiy the level of formality...which Jock stated wisely. All the advice given makes great sense to me and I am one of those US born "mutts" with lots to learn and much love for our history.
The perspective I can share here is that one top priority for most brides is for her guests to have a grand time and remember the wedding well. Your choice to wear your kilt honors her and adds opportunities for conversation and fun memories.
Whether you are one of many kilted gentleman or the only one, your decision to be kilted says the event is special to you...and what bride doesn't want that?
Sheila
TO Highlander 31...I love your wife's thought about kilts being like catnip to women!
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