Familiarity Breeds Contempt

[Fitzy]

To throw my 2 cents in, having been in the same position,... I finally had to realize that no matter what I thought of my Brother's view of wedding attire,...

It was his day, his way, that only mattered.

When my then widower brother was getting re-married, he asked me to be his best man. Of course I was proud to say yes, not knowing what was coming.

Both having a love of the water and sailing, the couple decided to hold the wedding ceremony on the beach at their yatch club. Having grown up on the water front I thought that a great idea, ..... until,...

My Brother had found a shop that rented tux,... with matching shorts. He and I were to row ashore (read now add being bare foot) and join the ceremony at the shore line....where everyone else was in conventional wedding attire.

I've worn tux in so many friend's weddings that I swore I'd not with my own - which I didn't. Instead, I had a blue jeans and embroidered shirts hippy wedding not uncommon in the mid 70's (the girls wore apliqued denum skirts). So, unconventional attire in a wedding party was not something I was against.

However, 20 years later, being alot wider, the pictures I was getting of what we'd look like in Tux with shorts didn't set well with me.

After some time reflecting, I realized that no matter what my views were, all that realy mattered was that it was my brother's day, and as best man it was my job was to make his day great in anyway I could. So, as they say, I took one for the team, satisfied that it made my brother happy.

Plus, it wouldn't be my wedding pictures I'd be looking back on and seeing myself as the world's stubbiest Penquin, wishing the tide would come in and hide the fact I was wearing a tux with shorts, no socks or shoes.

The pay back will be that if I re-marry, he'll be asked to be my best man, and wear a kilt. Considering his strong views about kilt wearing, it will be a true test of brotherly love !!!

Paul