Wife does not like me in a kilt

[chewse]

I am new to kilting, we are on vacation and I thought or hopped that I could try wearing my kilts. My wife is not very enthused with my kilting, she said I look like a Dork and made a crack about cross dressing, so unless I go to Celtic Games by myself, I not sure but I think my kilting days have been short.

Remember a wife is an accessory for your kilt wearing and can be substituted with a companion pet. Just kidding…..

Take you wife out to a pub for dinner and a Scotch. You’ll find, as most of us have, that your kilt wearing will draw favorable attention. This should help you wife to become more comfortable with you wearing a kilt.

[Spartan Tartan]

I would give her some time to adjust to the idea. If you are planning to wear your kilt only occasionally and when others in kilts are around, you might have more luck. If she is still not intersted, you always have kilt nights with the guys.

[wench381]

Again I love the fact that my husband wears a kilt. Yes he gets alot of attention from women mostly, some guys who aren't man enough to suck it up and show their heritage. Even on St. Patrick's Day at an irish pub he got more attention than normal as he was the only one wearing a "real" kilt. Other guys had on pseudo kilts-not wool, not made right, not a tartan. They didn't get as much attention as my husband. My husband even got into a "discussion" with an idiot who grabbed our daughter, not sure if there was intimidation involved since the idiot was with his father-in-law, who stupidly defended him and had to be restrained by our oldest. Would you mess with a guy in a kilt? I do because I can, he is my husband and I am proud that he is secure enough and literally doesn't give a good flippin' damn who have a problem with it. There are numerous instances of other nationalities whose native garb is borderline dresses and such. Does your wife have a problem with them? No, I am pretty sure she has more of a problem with women being forced to be covered head to toe, barely able to see, or being confined to their homes because they don't have a male relative to be with them out in public. Distract her from the fact that you wear a kilt by bringing up other nations male dress attire. Hell, take her to the place that the women wear "kilts" that from what I have seen are not even 6" from waist to hem. That should do it. Good luck.

[thescot]

So this wife, how attached are you?

[Doc Canary]

As kilt wearers, we subject ourselves to scrutiny from every angle. Although we would appreciate acceptance, most of all from our family, loved ones, and friends, the best we can expect and demand from any individual is tolerance and respect for our choice of dress. I came to this conclusion as a result of being physically assaulted because I was wearing a kilt.
The police became involved and were surprisingly understanding and professional towards my complaint. As a matter of principle, I filed battery charges against the assailant. After further investigation and mediation, the charges were dismissed by the state's attorney office. The outcome was expected, but I deemed it a win due to the guy having to go through the time, expense, a embarrassment of explaining why he was attempting to reach up another guy's kilt to the authorities. That, along with his aquiring two broken fingers during the attempt, equaled justice to me.
A bit off subject, but shows how dislike or misunderstanding can go to the extreme.

[Zardoz]

Thanks for this post. You've given me much gratitude for not having a wife, rather a number of ladyfriends who enjoy it when I'm kilted.

Ron, no reason you can't have both!

[Mike_Oettle]

Doc Canary, you had a good case. Shame on the state attorney for dropping the charges!
Regards,
Mike

[Burly Brute]

My two cents:


Your commitment to your wife is stronger and more important than any garment or ancestry. However,

My significant other despised the idea of a kilt at first, but now we are about a year in and I am wearing one ( that she is buying me as my groom present) in my wedding! So, it takes some time, but my guess is that she will come around.

In the meantime, here is the link for all those wondering:
http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/g...support-group/

Also, take her to some highland games and have her watch the athletes. I told my fiance I wanted to compete and buff out a bit more like those guys, and she became a lot more fonder of the kilt. Food for thought. God bless and I will be praying it works out.

-BB

[The Thirsty Viking]

Threads like this make me feel blessed.

My Girlfriend of 2+ years not only loves my kilts, she encourages them and wears kilted skirts herself. She was also active in Scottish historical groups before I met her. She encourages many of her male friends to try them, and supports me when others do not.

Now my Ex Wife on the other hand... Completely different story. to her, Kilts were only for Renn Faire, because they were a costume piece and a historical garment. We went rounds one time because i wanted to wear the Royal Stewart that my grandmother made to her friend's wedding, and she told me that if i did, it would completely ruin the day, and she would be the laughing stock of the entire town, and even her father (A high school teacher in that small town we lived in) would be a laughing stock.

I did it anyways. and the Bride and groomed loved it and invited me to be in the wedding party photos. Without her.

Her face was priceless.

[Nighthawk]

Here's the way I see it:

I have enough respect for my wife and her sovereignty as a person to not dictate to her how to dress. I expect the same. Give your wife exactly the same respect she gives you. If she dictates to you what you can and can't wear, you have the right to do the same to her. You're not a child. You're old enough to dress yourself, as is she. Bottom line is respect for each other as individuals. She says "I don't want you wearing that skirt. You look like a woman." then it is perfectly appropriate for you say "Cool. No problem. I don't want you wearing jeans. They make you look like a rhinestone cowboy." You get the same respect that you give.