Wife does not like me in a kilt

**Doc Canary** · 29th March 11, 03:10 PM

Mike, thanks for your kind words. As stated, things went the way I expected, so my determination of justice was based on principle and consternation I could cause to the assailant.
Due to our obviously counter culture statement made by our kilts, often times others feel free to ascribe motives and reactions to us based on our dress. Although it was seen as something frivolous by the authorities, I did not and refused to assume their view. The occurrence has actually strengthened my bond and commitment to the kilt wearing community. Since the event, my kilt inventory has increased by 4, with the current acquisition being a Utilikilt purchased today.
I hope no one else has had a remotely similar experience. Be sure to take any experience and reaction you receive while wearing your kilt as a chance to educate and enlighten others and the public at large.
We don't die, we multiply!

**Fitzy** · 29th March 11, 03:25 PM

I say reverse the tables, but in a more respectful way. Ask her how she would feel if you has said the same thing about some of her clothing that she likes to wear.

Failing that,..i can recommend a good divorce lawyer.

Paul

**The Wizard of BC** · 29th March 11, 03:37 PM

I have seen a few posts similar to this one on the forum. All I can do is offer you the same answer I would give if you walked into my shop with the same question.

If you walked into my shop with this question I would have to ask myself "why are you asking me this?"

Just as I would never involve myself with "the question" of what you do or do not wear under your kilt, I would never presume to involve myself in what goes on between a man and his wife.

If you are asking for my approval, sorry, none of my business.
If you are asking for my sympathy, also, none of my business.

I would however be wondering to myself why you are wanting to buy a kilt if you have not already worked this out with your wife.

**RockyR** · 29th March 11, 03:52 PM

My wife (and business partner) knows better than to tell me what to wear or not wear (and I, her). My theory on it is this:

If I ASK your opinion, you have a right to give it and I should consider it before making a decision.

If I do NOT ask your opinion, you may give it, but I have NO obligation to follow it or give it thought.

The same goes for her, I give my opinion when it's requested and I am always honest (a fault of mine). My feelings aren't hurt if she doesn't follow my advice.

If she doesn't like a decision I made (which doesn't directly involve her) and voices her opinion, I let her know that it wasn't her decision, it was mine and I am happy with what I've decided. If she would insist on calling me names, I'd let her know that those type of comments are uncalled for and unappreciated and that I would never do that to her. If she insisted, I'd ask her to stop acting like a child.

Please note... I'm not trying to act like a 'tough guy' or boss my wife around. I'd expect the SAME THING from her if the tables were reversed. We're all adults here and can make adult decisions without resorting to name calling.

**triumph** · 29th March 11, 04:54 PM

Here are photo's of my kilt outfits, this when I first got them. I was given the 2 complete kilt and jackets, I have since altered the kilts so thing fit better, the person who had these before me was taller. My wife is great with most of what I have done and we have had 44 great years. I was just venting, disappointed and not sure what I will do, but getting a new wife is not in the picture, because other than this she has been the greatest thing in my life.

**Nighthawk** · 29th March 11, 04:54 PM

Originally Posted by RockyR

My wife (and business partner) knows better than to tell me what to wear or not wear (and I, her). My theory on it is this:

If I ASK your opinion, you have a right to give it and I should consider it before making a decision.

If I do NOT ask your opinion, you may give it, but I have NO obligation to follow it or give it thought.

The same goes for her, I give my opinion when it's requested and I am always honest (a fault of mine). My feelings aren't hurt if she doesn't follow my advice.

If she doesn't like a decision I made (which doesn't directly involve her) and voices her opinion, I let her know that it wasn't her decision, it was mine and I am happy with what I've decided. If she would insist on calling me names, I'd let her know that those type of comments are uncalled for and unappreciated and that I would never do that to her. If she insisted, I'd ask her to stop acting like a child.

Please note... I'm not trying to act like a 'tough guy' or boss my wife around. I'd expect the SAME THING from her if the tables were reversed. We're all adults here and can make adult decisions without resorting to name calling.

I thought long and hard about replying to this thread. I've always had the "Accept me for who I am, or go to hell" attitude, and it comes out in my posts. I try not to let it... but hey, that's just who I am. What Rocky said is exactly what I was trying to say. He's just more polite than I am...

**bigdad1** · 29th March 11, 05:02 PM

I don't know how long you have been married or if you wanted to kilt before marriage but in my not so humble opinion (I was married for 35 years) her attitude sucks.

**slohairt** · 29th March 11, 05:21 PM

Nice Regulation doublet!

There's no much I can say, really, having never encountered this problem. (Kilts put food on the table around here so it would be foolish of my wife to complain!)

Perhaps you could butter her up with some clothes for herself? (It works for me in other situations.) She may just be a wee bit insecure about the attention such an outfit receives.

**Macman** · 29th March 11, 05:24 PM

Isn't it great to be given these? I especially covet your regulation doublet!
From your pictures, you sure don't look like a dork, nor are you cross-dressing. I haven't had similar issues with my wives, but I can understand your frustration and your need to vent. My bet is that, after that many years, you and your wife will come to an understanding, and I sure hope we see you wearing your kilts in the future.