Wife does not like me in a kilt

[biblemonkey]

[QUOTE=Burly Brute;967277]

Like maybe throw on a cowboy hat or some aviator glasses? Maybe some flip-flops! Haha. We Americans sure are a non-sensible group, aye?

I hope I misunderstood the sarcasm and it was not directed in a mean way. I never said, "look more american less scottish". Placing that in the quote area of the post is dishonest. I'm not mad, just saying.

I merely suggested a slighty less "dressy" option that would help ease folks into the idea of him in a kilt. The full white hose, bonnet, and argyll jacket approach is just too much for some people's initial introduction and it reminds them of cliches and pipe bands though we know better. After a little bit he can introduce other items into daily wear and as they are slowly added around the wife she may have more of a chance to get used to it. That was all I was getting at. Worked for me, just a suggestion.

Hugh

[Teufel Hunden]

My wife is not very enthused with my kilting, she said I look like a Dork and made a crack about cross dressing

I can understand women not liking a man in a kilt (though it is only the rare 3% of women who are this way), as it's just a matter of personal preference. I liken it to the non-kilt outfits my fiancee doesn't like to see me in.

But the cross dressing crack, I always wonder about people who say things like that. Have they never heard of an entire country called Scotland? Never seen various movies involving LOTS of kilt wearing, specifically Rob Roy and the like? Did they sit through those films thinking, "Man, bunch of cross dressers in this movie...." Ignorance annoys me quickly and easily.

I do have a question I hope you don't mind, how did this never come up before in 44 years of being married? Were you always interested in highland wear and just never got around to it, or was it a recent thing? I always wonder that when these types of threads come up.

In my experience (girlfriend, not wife) it matters quite a bit what type of kilt and how I wear it:

- My lass doesn't much care for modern kilts (Utilikilt et al.).

Mine is the same way. She'd rather I be in at least smart casual, with the very minimum being a polo shirt. Modern solid color kilts, especially leather ones, are almost completely unacceptable to her. I don't particularly care for them either, so it works out.

[thescot]

My wife initially had an issue with it, as well. Said she didn't like the attention it brought. I finally realized that she meant she didn't like the attention that SHE thought it brought to HER. . . .!

boB

My wife really doesn't like the attention that SHE thinks it brings to ME!

She even said so outright last year when we had a balck tie event planned; she said that me in a kilt would detract from her outfit, that I would get all the attention instead of her.

I guess it's hard to argue with that logic. ith:

[macwilkin]

[QUOTE=Burly Brute;967277]

Like maybe throw on a cowboy hat or some aviator glasses? Maybe some flip-flops! Haha. We Americans sure are a non-sensible group, aye?

Nothing wrong with wearing sunglasses at outdor events such as Highland Games and whatnot. My trusty classic Ray-Ban Aviators accompany me to many an event. You can't get much more classic than Ray-Bans.

T.

[thescot]

One other note: arguing logic and reason with a woman is not usually very productive. Women are by nature more emotional than men, and this whole thing is definitely emotion-laden. While my wife likes kilts, she only wants me to wear one at Scottish events. Heck, it would take me several years to work through my wardrobe like that!

On the other hand, while watching Celtic Thunder on tv the other night, she did mention--again--that she liked the "dressed down" look for lack of a better term. The guitar player had a black jacobite shirt, dark hose, and boots. I don't have a jacobite shirt anymore, but I have determined to wear a much more casual outfit soon just to please her. She said I tended to dress like an "old man," what with the tweeds and dressy stuff. I draw the line at pushed bown socks, but I have been known to wear hiking boots, so I may just buy a new pair of ankle boots and try out a different shirt or sweater.

Can't hurt.

And yeah, Todd, the aviators are always cool!

[Sharkman]

I'm sorry to hear that your wife isn't too happy about your wanting to wear the kilt. they look great as far as I'm concerned.

I have to say that my girlfriend has told me she won't go out with me if I'm kilted and although I'm bothered by that a little it will not stop me wearing the kilt.

I long ago quit caring too terribly much what other people think about what I'm wearing or doing. I suppose I may have cared a bit when I was younger, but I've been following my own tune for decades.

As a matter of fact this Saturday here in San Diego at Balboa Park they are celebrating Tartan Day and it is being sponsored by the House of Scotland located in the park and I will be going there kilted for the first time and representing Clan Campbell!!
I'm encouraging all of my local kilted brothers from X-Marks to meet me there. I'll be wearing the Black Watch Kilt, white Clan Campbell t-shirt and tan Marine Corps Baseball Cap. Well, maybe I'll wear my Balmoral, anyway I will be having some pictures to post afterwards.

The Highland Games will be here in June in Vista, Ca and I'll be there helping out at the Clan Campbell tent, so stop by and say hi if you are going.

[Dixiecat]

This post is quite presumptive. The wording is hostile and rude in my opinion.
Respect and communication will crumble many walls in any relationship.

I respectfully submit that you didn't understand the gist of the opinion I was trying to convey as I was saying exactly that.

[Cowher]

I think I understood the point of all of your posts in this thread. The issue I had was the way you said it I took as rude. I have nothing against you I just think on forums it's easy to be taken the wrong way.
Anyway.... I'm not mad at ya.

I respectfully submit that you didn't understand the gist of the opinion I was trying to convey as I was saying exactly that.

[Dixiecat]

I think I understood the point of all of your posts in this thread. The issue I had was the way you said it I took as rude. I have nothing against you I just think on forums it's easy to be taken the wrong way.
Anyway.... I'm not mad at ya.

Perhaps you need to read them again. Especially where I point out mutual respect. There was no hostility, presumption or rudeness.

[Dale Seago]

Perhaps you need to read them again. Especially where I point out mutual respect. There was no hostility, presumption or rudeness.

Cowher, I recommend you quit while she's ahead.